Grunching, I can’t imaging being around someone who tells me that they find a word I’m using offensive even if I didn’t mean it that way and continuing to use it.
I would probably say “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it that way. That word means ______ to me but I will stop using it”
We had a poll and the community spoke. You would be directly disregarding the will of this community by proceeding in this manner. You should reconsider or step down from modding imo.
The contents of the Wookie’s post ultimately linked in your post has not aged well - ironically just a few weeks after post date, it is shit - unproven at the time but looking like shaky wishcasting now (IMO)
LOL at thinking Sp_z or B_rg_rs isn’t offensive. Is anyone making this argument? It’s exactly saying someone is R_t_rd_d. I hate myself every time I say that one but it pops out occasionally from habit when I’m really frustrated. Inc_l, C_ckl_d and S_mp all have similar problems.
The thing about offensive words is that the intent of the person saying it is irrelevant. If Suzie and you play grab ass at work and Jill is offended by this it doesn’t matter that you didn’t mean to offend her. The only thing that matters is that Jill is offended. There is some limit to this in public spaces but when one is clearly meaning to offend or insult someone by making a disparaging statement of a large group of people then it shouldn’t be complicated to find the right answer.