Cuckolding and poly are not remotely the same thing, as was already stated.
They’re not remotely the same? In practice, many women are poly while the guys turn into cucks.
Oh right, you’re probably talking about the swinging where there has to be couples or single women only.
That’s not patriarchal at all.
No just no. You are wrong. Women are not poly and men are cucks. This is a bizzare conflation of two completely different things. One is a sexual lifestyle and relationship model the other a fetish.
A man is only as poly as his options.
I mean that’s just rephrasing the question - unless, again, I’m missing something. You seem adamant it’s something you’d never be into, yet you’ve apparently also voluntarily brought the subject up in discussion in every relationship you’ve ever been in. Why would someone do that, is all.
No, I’d be into it.
And it would probably doom the relationship I’d assume. I can think through how it would play out.
A man can get a lot of thinking done during a refractory period.
Other answer is that I’m a self-saboteur.
What if she didn’t feel hurt?
She wouldn’t be who she is, so it’s moot.
I wouldn’t be with a woman that subservient and/or asexual.
I’m really confused now. Like are you talking about two different things here?
I thought he was asking if I’d be okay sleeping with other people and she didn’t. Not swinging.
Ex porn-star. No kid.
I had a girl before her that I mostly just partied with - who did have a kid. I call her the baby mama sometimes. She was a good mom but a disaster in every other way. I had the kid in my life for about 11 years and tried my best to be a good influence and help her out. But the further I get from it the further I realize that partying with the mom, even though it was never around the kid, was still inexcusable.
I don’t see how anything morally wrong with polyamory or basically anything sexual between consenting adults. (maybe not things that damage someone’s body, like cutting or super realistic choking).
But I do think that it’s not great if you have kids. Not because it’s wrong in itself, but because we live in a culture that constantly tells you it’s wrong, that the man’s a beta cuck, and so on. That shit makes an impact on anyone, no matter what anyone thinks. And remember you need it to not only not affect you, but not affect your partner, your kids, etc. If it makes the relationship less likely to succeed, it is poor form for a couple with kids.
I don’t think there is any good data. Please link me if there is. All I have are anecdotes from friends who are all broken up now.
Is ‘polyamory’ just hipster for ‘swinging’ or is there some actual difference?
Wow, that’s quite a while. Do you still see the kid?
I would be into swinging just in terms of sleeping with other women bc I’m a man and testosterone and all that. I might even get off on seeing her railed.
I would not swing bc of what it would be indicative of regarding the way a woman feels about me. Obviously I alone am not enough to please her, when a normal, non-hypersexual woman is content with monogamy. I want to be loved first, the sex is secondary. It also would not be the most stable environment to raise kids, if for no other reason then the future is more uncertain than being with a normal woman who’s deeply in love with you and gives you the look.
Unfortunately no. The mom and I were barely friends anymore and I was just doing the bare minimum to with the Mom so I could stay in the kid’s life. So the mom told me to fuck off and I assume (knowing her) put an ultimatum to the kid to do the same. Yes the kid could have snuck around and seen me but I can understand why she wouldn’t want do that. Still breaks my heart. I think we’ll reconnect at some point. She’s 25 and just graduated from USC graduate film school.
If I ever get into a relationship with a woman with a kid I’ll probably be a lot slower to put my heart into the kid this time around.
FYI - in my life just means I helped out when the mom was sick (which was a lot). I taught the kid how to drive and was a “crew dad” for a couple of years. But I never lived with the Mom or anything.
I think my favorite thing about this Houthi attack on Saudi Arabia as casus belli for a war with Iran is that it’s a better justification for bombing SA than Iran. I mean they basically sponsored 9/11 lol. We really should have invaded them not Afghanistan/Iraq. Afghanistan was the kind of lawless place that evil bastards like to base out of and Iraq was a totally innocent bystander in the whole thing… The money and expertise were all Saudi. In other words they sponsored it.
Last time I checked the Saudi’s were bombing the shit out of Yemen using our weapons. The Houthi’s are the people they are trying to kill. I’m sorry but that was a totally legit target for them and the Saudi’s more than earned that kind of return fire. I have zero sympathy and am hoping the damage is as bad as possible.
5M barrels a day worth of oil not being pumped is good for everyone in the oil business who isn’t in Saudi Arabia (absolutely including people in the US oil business) and good for the whole planet because climate change.
Shit that sucks, dude. I hope you reconnect with her again someday.
Yeah I was thinking about that kid situation, not the porn star.
I’d forgotten or didn’t know that you weren’t ever together.