100% of my relationships with pre-sexxored women have ended. You may be onto something
You guys haven’t been in a household where you have to share duties and it’s a real give and take, your lives are intertwined each minute. Try doing that while letting her be with another man and then let me know if it changes the level of sacrifice you’re willing to make.
You’re not much more than glorified roommates if you don’t have kids, either.
Suzzer had an ex with a child I think. Still not the same.
Feels like the house is empty when only one is here.
And I don’t know where you’re really coming from Chris. You’re not swinging or cuckolding, you relate but you want to browbeat. That’s cool.
It’s not happening immediately since my youngest will be living at home at least her first year of college, but an empty nest is looming for us.
I could give a shit what consenting adults do but feel pretty strongly that swinging while raising kids is really bad for the kids.
This is pure bias without a shred of evidence to support it.
Why?
lol, this is all good humoured as far as I’m concerned, but you’re the one making declarations about whether other people’s relationships are “deep and committed”, not me, so I think it’s a bit rich to be getting upset that I’m attacking your ideas. Like, you realise that it’s actually kind of a serious charge to label people as incapable of strong relationships because of some aspect of their sexual behaviour that you personally feel is “unnatural”? Like it’s not a stretch at all to compare this to 20th century ideas on homosexuality, it’s an exact match to this idea of yours. That doesn’t mean you’re wrong, necessarily, but it also means it shouldn’t be surprising that I’m arguing strongly about this, because I think that you ARE wrong, and that that this is therefore just bigotry on your part.
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Is she now damaged goods? Is she worse than before? Did she lose any value?
Can you imagine having sex with someone else than the person you are with? Do you think that could be exciting/fun?
I wouldn’t bc it would hurt her.
Men and women are different. Is the memo that they’re not now?
I could actually swing with my wife bc she’s my friend first.
It would change a bit of how I look at her, I think. But the main reason we wouldn’t is bc she’s aghast at the idea, as I’m thankful for.
She was far from a prude before me, which I’m also thankful for.
Being w/ multiple dudes and me making her pleased the way I do is actually the apex of an ego boost.
It’s also important to point out that monogamy is directly tied to patriarchal ideas of male ownership of female sexuality and the Madonna/whore complex so common among CIS hetero men.
Are you jealous when she masturbates? I guarantee you are responsible for a tiny fraction of her lifetime orgasms.
It’s an issue in definition of terms.
I was wrong. Best friends can be in a committed relationship. I was thinking through the lens of a full household, raising children.
You’re playing with fire mainly.
Maybe I’m not following something here, but… why?
I guarantee you that’s wrong.
Like way wrong. I’m not looking to brag about sexual prowess, but what you said is false. And no, I wouldn’t be jealous if she masturbated.
I don’t even know if I’d be jealous if she did stuff with permission. Like I said, I’ve talked about this in each relationship. Aside, she has a former co-worker that used to report to her whose bf is a cuck, she’s hoping one of the guys she sleeps with will fancy her bc she looks down on her bf now.
That woman came by with her kids and woo-boy, that was a bit sad. One was constantly acting out for attention and the other was a wallflower, zero discipline - she just rolled her eyes at the one.
Mainly dirty talk/probing for information.