I have, my ex just had one.
They broke up when she wanted to move out of their shared bedroom and have solos (easier for when her friends visited). Things escalated a bit for dude.
I have, my ex just had one.
They broke up when she wanted to move out of their shared bedroom and have solos (easier for when her friends visited). Things escalated a bit for dude.
You think you don’t. It’s very common for open couples to be socially monogamous.
Yeah, I’m not forbidding it.
I understand how people can have different views on this. I still stick to you’re more glorified roommates than in a deep, committed relationship tho.
This is very true. (He would likely know if he’s close to them personally tho)
Do I want to have a threesome with a g/f and her hot friend? Hell yeah. Would I be jealous of other guys banging her? Probably.
Mookakke ?
My last relationship faded because she was approximately infinitely more into sex than I was in my late 40s. She wanted that excitement we had in the first 1.5 years or so, whereas truth be told I’d be perfectly fine just dumping my load a couple times a week. Obviously I tried to keep her entertained but ultimately it felt like a losing battle.
There were other reasons the relationship fizzled out. But if boring sex was the only reason and she was really into trying to save it by swinging - I’d have given it a try. I also seem to run pretty low in the jealousy department - so I don’t feel like it would bother me as much as some.
Gotta take your lumps when you’re a boy named suzz.
I think you’re sort of missing the point. This is like saying “oh yeah I’m not forbidding homosexuality, I’m just saying, men can’t really love each other as deeply as a man and a woman can”. I’m skeptical of the view that a “deep, committed relationship”, which I consider a basically meaningless term, can only exist when partners exert some defined level of control over each other which just happens to align with prevailing cultural ideas. I’m sure Christian conservatives would tell me that a “deep, committed relationship” has to involve the wife submitting to the husband.
I think by the time you hit 50 it’s all glorified roommates anyway. You’re just committed to being there for each other for the long haul.
Right, this is why I rolled my eyes at “deep, committed relationship”. All successful marriages end in friendship, because friendship is the only human relationship in which we accept people just as they are.
I guess.
I just don’t see how a guy (who’s not naturally a beta or watev) can stomach it about a woman he loves. Ok sweetie, I’ll watch the kids while you got get tunnels dug. Have fun!
I think you’re conflating swinging with cuckold fetish.
I guess I take pride in pleasing my woman and would be insecure she’d have to get outside dick.
I know it’s a paradigm. Neither of you have kids either I don’t think (makes you look at your partner different).
I think everyone has their line. My big thing would be the dude has to wear a condom. That’s how I know I’m special. Also diseases and don’t want to be bumping into some other dude’s load.
I’ve broached it in each relationship I’ve been in.
The ones that showed a predisposition are the ones who have been in multiple trainwreck relationships since. Those that haven’t settled down in a (seemingly) monogamous relationship after me.
Anecdotal evidence, I know. If I was a single guy with no kids and lived my own life and just wanted to have fun, sure - why not? Still wouldn’t do it in a relationship about someone I really cared about as a other half type.
Have you guys talked to most normal women about this? If a woman is down it likely shows she’s either not that interested or has underlying issues.
I’m a low jealousy guy. I haven’t been in an actual relationship where my gf slept with another guy, but one did once sleep with a girl (independent of me) and I’ve certainly had casual relationships where the woman was seeing another guy and would discuss the sex they were having with them etc. I just don’t care.
In other cultures people literally kill their female relatives for having premarital sex because they can’t imagine how you can stomach sitting there and having that happen. These ideas are incredibly culturally ingrained. That said, sexual jealousy is natural, but other kinds of jealousy (financial say) are also natural and we don’t consider that normal and healthy in the way that that’s the cultural attitude to sexual jealousy.
It’s generally true of people with countercultural ideas on how to live that they are more likely to live unstable lives. That was exactly the argument that used to be deployed against homosexuality. Another way to interpret the same data is that “stable” people are simply unwilling to cross cultural lines. In repressive Muslim cultures, I bet women willing to go out without the hijab are generally head cases.
Ok bro, bc repressive Muslim cultures are bad doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to be a man.
Normal women don’t want their man whoring around either.
Was your wife a virgin before you met tho? I’m not sure how you can have a deep, committed relationship if some other dude has already been pumping his wang into her.
Not sure if you’ve heard but if you use sticky tape multiple times it gets fluff and whatnot stuck to it and loses its stick. Then it’s of no use to anyone.