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Sperm donor implies some kind of legal contract where you don’t pay child support and don’t have to ever see the child or parents again.
But the way they’re saying it is pretty fucked up.
This, plus if she’s lesbian and not bi, what are we getting out of it anyway? The allure is watching two lesbians have enthusiastic sex with each other, not having one of them put up with dry, unenjoyable sex with you.
Yeah, @Vict0ar is saying he had a friend, with benefits, that he had mutually beneficiary interactions with, or so he thought, and then afterwards he is told to fuck off because he was being used for his semen.
I don’t post “wat” for nothing.
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In fact this is one of the more horrible things I’ve heard in awhile, in regards to “Love & Hope & Sex & Dreams”
Yeah, this sounds bad.
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I… dont support this idea
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Yeah, put me down for no.
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Please no.
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I gotta combo break this shit with an AW HELLZ YEAH provided we’re using ‘confront’ in the most benign way possible.
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He’s not gonna challenge her to a duel, everybody relax.
It doesn’t bother me if you do this, but trying to get someone who acts like this to acknowledge the humanity of anyone else in the world is a fool’s errand.
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Only chance things will change is if she comes to you
I guess my other post didn’t make it. But yeah confronting her won’t do anything. Everyone with any experience here will tell you to just ignore her, delete her and her gf number and never contact them again. It’s not even really debatable.
That said I know most people can’t help themselves and must learn on their own, feelings suck.
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Well, if you go through with it, I think we’re gonna need a trip report.
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If it makes you feel any better I really doubt it was over the 180 bucks. She probably got caught cheating with you, made up a story, and then in for a penny in for a pound she kept the money as well. In my experience when things end some people will just naturally push every single button they have
People who need to borrow 180 bucks wouldn’t be blowing off a middle class baby daddy they could hit for child support, so I don’t buy the ‘she just used you for your sperm’ angle. If that was true you’d be having dinner tonight with her and the girlfriend in a pretty friendly context if you communicated anything resembling happiness that she was pregnant.
My guess, unfortunately, is that this was all the most hurtful shit the wife could come up with… and that’s what you’re getting served because that’s the penance the girl you were seeing had to pay to keep that relationship intact. Expect to hear from her in 6 months to a year when the current relationship ends in divorce some double digit % of the time if I’m right.
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Well shit. Landlord came in to fix a leak and started gossiping about M. So stupid how easy it is to be triggered. All wound up now.
Haven’t been following this thread but it seems like the best place to post this. I’m in a relationship that feels like it’s failing. I’m not a believer in “the one” but I did see this girl as someone I could spend the rest of my life with. She’s smart, goofy, funny, beautiful, just amazing in every way I could ask for. I started typing out the tl;dr story but figure I’ll keep it simple and summarize the two things that I think are contributing to the feeling of failure:
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We have a puppy. She’s an amazing dog and I love her, but our lives also revolve around this dog 24/7 and I find myself getting frustrated/angry really easily. This, in turn, frustrates my girlfriend.
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I think this is related to (1): she wants kids, I don’t. I’ve always said that I reserved the right to change my mind at some point, but I’m fucking 31 now so I’m doubting that “some point” will ever come. I say this is related because getting the dog has made it even more clear to me how I don’t want children–despite all of the love I feel for this dog part of me also resents the fact that it has completely changed our lives in a way that I don’t really like. Meanwhile, she’s going in the opposite direction–seeing her friends with children, for example, has made her openly talk about how she wants them more now.
There are plenty of things you can compromise on in a relationship, but a binary choice like Have Kids vs Don’t Have Kids just isn’t one of those things. Between that reality and the dog frustrations it just feels like our relationship is slipping away and I question whether we can actually make it work for the rest of our lives.
This leads to incredibly intense feelings of looming loneliness. If I can’t make it work with her, someone I thought was literally perfect and have zero complaints about, can I make it work with anyone at all? Then what is my life? I hate the city I live in, my friends are all spreading out and doing the family thing, I don’t particularly love my job despite being good at it… what the fuck?
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This doesn’t seem accurate, if she wants kids and you don’t I wouldn’t call that “zero complaints” from a relationship perspective. Its actually a defining characteristic.
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Fair point. I guess I just meant “make it work” as in there is a current feeling of failure in the relationship, separate from the long-term feasibility. But those are closely related and probably can’t be separated so cleanly.
This has crossed my mind, but the desire to not have children is due to so many different reasons (personal, societal) that it seems like a sure path to a miserable life. I thought I would age out of that view by now but I haven’t and doubt I ever will.
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