I see stim is getting support in the mental health thread. 
It’s the first day of spring! Raining and cold here but
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Appreciate it. I’m at Ross and I’m legit shocked at how many beautiful women are here.
I’m going to see my friend tonight. We’re going to just hang out and I hope to cheer her up some. If it gets to that point I will make it clear I can’t be more than friends
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Do you guys think if I make that clear and she still wants to hook up should I? No right?
Pure logic says no.
And yet “The heart has it’s reasons of which reason knows nothing.” (Pascal, a mathematician.)
Idk, man. Tread carefully.
What’s Ross? The clothing store?
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Hanging out went well.
We ended up going to a weed shop near her house and loaded up. Then walked around downtown. We ended up just walking down all kinds of streets looking at local buildings and talking for endless hours. We stopped to get ice cream. We walked down a super dark road with zero lights and I thought it was kinda cool how much she trusted me. Not just that I wouldn’t do anything but that I’d prevent anything from happening.
We then sat in my car and talked for another hour or so and she asked to spend the night. I gave her the actual legit reason that I still couldn’t do that because of covid/moms. She understood.
Then I took her home and we talked in front of her house for another hour and a half. She opened up about her family life and how her mom took her to live with another guy for like 7 years and he was super abusive and neglectful while she was away taking care of her fathers mother who was super sick/old and had to be taken care of. Apparently the mom knew and she still see’s the guy today. She didn’t tell me if the abuse was sexual and didn’t want to pry, she will tell me if she feels comfortable.
Her ex actually came out and " looked " at his truck and had the lights shined on us for a minute, looked like he wanted to just check out what was going on lol.
I asked her if she was going to be ok and if she needed me to stick around and she said she would be fine. Told her to call me ASAP if there were problems. Hugged goodbye and that was it thankfully
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Yes a cheap clothing store. They also have random home stuff like decorations, utensils, bedroom stuff etc. They have pretty cool stuff for cheap.
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I’m glad it went well. Reminds me of my relationship with an ex I’m still good friends with. The issues she had with abuse by her step-father and in previous relationships doomed us and they’re still crippling for her. I don’t regret having been with her at all, despite the hard stuff.
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Well done.
I honestly figured you were -200 to hook up despite the fact that you know better.
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Can’t have her spend the night at your place, can’t spend the night at her place, or both?
Both. Covid and my mom at my place and her ex still lives there and they only broke up like a month ago. I assume that would cause an absolute shit show.
I don’t really plan on spending the night with her regardless because of her current mental status.
Not to say I won’t cave in the future in a moment of weakness. She’s pretty attractive. We will see how things play out.
Any talk of suicide or self harm should be taken very seriously. Communicate with trusted loved ones, families and friends. Maybe skip the Mom who chooses abusive step dad over child.
Suicidal talk is not a secret to keep.
Psychiatric help and/or hospitalization is a must.
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While saying this, I would also say you should RESEARCH CAREFULLY any facility you recommend to people. Mental hospitals in USA#1 have largely morphed into for-profit jails, and people with good health insurance are at the most risk.
My friend got sucked into one of these and it took a week for her to get out. You want nothing to do with these shameless vultures (publicly traded on NYSE, and fortune-500 listed, obviously).
No different from drug rehab centers in America. Just another Florida shuffle.
Using you in what way?
So just to be clear, you got a call from a woman after a different woman you were seeing stopped contacting you, telling you that they are lovers and the woman you were seeing was sleeping with you (and I assume having a relationship with you) solely to get pregnant and then planning to never see you again while she absconded with a child that’s half you to be with her other lover?
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That would be such a dumb plan because you could get visitation and a bunch of shit with your rights as a parents.
I agree it’s just some dumb story she made up.
That sucks though, I’m sorry buddy.
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Aside from the wilder aspects of your experience, the emotions are understandable and familiar. Abandonment leading to anger and confusion? Been there. I’m sorry. A baby out there would be a totally life-changing thing. I hope that’s not the case and you get by without suffering any more than the usual amount of misery.
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Ugh. This sounds judge-y now. I don’t mean to imply you did anything wrong. Needing others leaves us vulnerable in all kinds of circumstances.
Even in the driest of dry spells and with the hottest of lesbians, I’d never have done this. Being on the hook for decades of child support for a child they want you to have nothing to do with is a pretty hefty price to pay. Definitely more than enough to bring me to my senses.