I think this thread existed on the older site, but did not make it over. Anyway, I’ll start.
I am a Canadian Citizen with resident alien status. I have lived back and forth between the US and Canada my whole life, Cali, and BC. My wife is an American citizen who immigrated from Vietnam as a kid. I have two kids both born in the US.
I don’t want to move back to Canada really. I like it there, and like some things better there to be certain, but we have had a good and easy life here. Good cushy jobs. Loads of opportunities. Decent house and school for the kids. It’s kinda picket fence shit, if you are into that kind of thing.
When Trump won we immediately got the kids their Canadian citizenship proof sorted. I thought we were headed for a pretty bleak time and fairly quickly. I was hair on fire half the time and people around me were starting to worry about me. Trump was telegraphing all the things he was going to do back then, but we were in the stage where people still thought the republicans were going to squash him.
@Suzzer can probably recall my doom and gloom PMs to him back on 2p2 and they were off on some details and timing but arrived in the same fucking place.
All that time, I held out hope and clung to denial. You all have lived through this with me. Protests, incompetence, elections, Meuller, impeachment, Bernie…something had to throw a wrench in this shit. Like people could not possibly actually want to ruin everything? Right?
So now here we stand with our last “hope” being fucking Biden. That was the best that the so-called resistance could muster. Watching more vehement protests against safety precautions in a pandemic than we ever saw for concentration camps for children. I have been stripped of any hope.
My wife and I finally realized there is no argument for staying any longer. None. Well, the weather. That’s it. So we finally went through the birth of acceptance, we are really going to do this. We have to.
Now we have got to start taking care of that baby and it’s fucking overwhelming. I don’t know where to start and frankly I really don’t want to do the work involved. A blessing in disguise is that every time I get a little comfortable some more off the wall shit goes down. But now…today we are feeling like the leisurely pace we were planning on taking of targeting the fall may be too slow. The god damned frog is big though man.
I am going to lay out my thoughts here and would love feedback and correction. Here is what I have to solve:
We have to get the family up there during this. Since three out of four of us have citizenship I am assuming we will be able to cross the border with some quarantine expectation. I really am considering sending the wife and kids first, like soon, because I am really concerned that shit is getting very weird here and could get ugly fast. It will be easier for me to drive up later on my own after I take care of the other things on this list. I think we can accommodate this by having family find a rental for us to live in and quarantine in, but if I come separately then it will add a wrinkle as I will have to quarantine alone later.
Pack, ship and store our stuff. We are not really minimalist so much as low consumers, which translates to not having a lot of stuff and not a lot of it being valuable. We could legit leave almost everything we own and it wouldn’t be as much if a financial loss as a time suck to replace it. It’s probably not worth taking much.
We have two cars and probably will have to sell one. I am thinking that it makes more sense for the kids and wife to fly on a two-hour flight than to do an 18-hour road trip. I would drive the other one up.
Sell our house. I am shocked, but it is still a sellers market and I feel like that is a window that could slam shut at any time. There is not a lot of work that needs to be done, but it is not show ready and we will for sure take a hit on maximizing value for things like having an old fence, some small paint issues etc, landscaping being kinda wack. In the previous timeline, I was going to leisurely take a few months to fix it up, but now I am thinking I should just eat the loss. Then there is the logistics of the actual sale and the transfer of money which brings us to.
The transfer of money. I have some in some 401ks, some in cash, and some in the house. I have no idea how to even begin transferring this safely.
Health insurance. It is a very slight possibility that we could keep our jobs for some measure of time while we make this move, and thus our insurance, but we are going to have to establish residency and get my wife status there to qualify for health insurance there. My sister has done so, with her husband who is a Mexican citizen, so I have help with it, but I believe they were uninsured before they immigrated back themselves.
So the first thing I have done is looked up crossing the border and it is not clear. Since my wife is not a citizen she would only be allowed to cross for essential travel and that is not clearly defined and looks to be decided on a case by case basis. I assume that moving would be considered essential, but that likely requires starting the immigration process. So I have asked my family in Canada to look for an immigration lawyer and I hope that will start to put some of these pieces in place for us.
If anyone here has a reference or experience in this it would be greatly appreciated. All thoughts, advice, and anecdotes are welcome, however, qualified.