Just to clarify since everyone thinks this is about sex - my horniness level couldn’t be any lower right now. I’m 51. My dick stopped ruling me a while back. This is 100% about the potential for a long term thing and 0% about getting laid. My perfect vacation would be we don’t even have sex, but really make a connection and start to fall for each other. If I just wanted to get laid I’d do it doggy style, wearing a mask, in a running shower, with a hooker in LA - and save a lot of money.
My natural pace of meeting a serious girlfriend who I like and can put up with my shit seems to be about every 25 years - which puts my next girlfriend arriving at age 70.
I don’t feel like I can afford to pass up an opportunity to speed up that process. I’m pretty anxious about the trip. This is the least excited I’ve ever been about a vacation. I keep hoping LA will cancel non-essential outgoing flights or something so I can have the decision made for me.
I totally get it. I do. I shake my head and some of this stuff also. I am just saying 9 months in the people doing 95% of things right are people we should be grateful for even if there are some moments of weakness in there. The average American out there is just totally done with it and has been for months. That’s why we have 20,000 Americans dying a week from it right now.
Let’s circle back to this. Can you identify what made you feel this way today? Why did you choose this thread to pick a fight? Do you remember the last time you felt this way? Can you say what set you off then?
I’m not mad at you man and I do mostly understand why you are doing it. I am lucky enough to be in a mostly happy marriage that has allowed me to stay semi-sane during this. I can’t imagine being single through it and I am sorry you have had to go through that. I also am aware enough to know if I was single it would be very very hard to turn that down. I do appreciate that you have made lots sacrifices elsewhere.
I woke up realizing I had very little work to do. I have now achieved my goal of fucking off on the internet for 2 hours. And my heart rate is up a little - which I think is kind of addictive.
In a weird negative compulsion way I miss the runup to the election and the week after - doomscrolling for 4 hours every monring.
You are vastly understating the impact of exponential growth. Even if you infected just one or two other people, you could still be responsible for hundreds of cases and multiple deaths in fairly short order.
So the local state representative that caused a shitstorm on my wife’s fb a few weeks ago, who runs around sabotaging our local health department and screaming OFB! from the rooftops is isolating and waiting on test results.
I’ll save my prayers for someone else. I’m sure he will get through it and use it to flutard things up even further.
“I met a very hot Irish girl who lives in Germany on my big trip and had a drunken hookup. She’s decided to go to Costa Rica on Dec 12th and is asking me to come. JFC.”
Sounds like love hope you live happily ever after.
I paid attention when you expressed FOMO at a potential long-term relationship with someone who is compatible with your love of travel. Is there more to it than that?
Everyone is just one human incapable of making an appreciable impact in any sort of societal system thus it doesn’t matter what you do in any situation
It seems like every time people think they got it from an outdoor setting it turns out, well, actually they had spent a bunch of time indoors too. The White House event comes to mind.
I’m just always super skeptical of outdoor transmission given the studies, the lack of spread at events like protests/ozarks/etc, and what we know about how the virus spreads in enclosed spaces. I guess in your case it sounds like there were so many people at the rooftop bar that you may have been within breathing/coughing distance of people for long enough.
Yesterday I went to see an eye doctor. It’s the riskiest thing I’ve done since the pandemic started, and sitting in a room with a bunch of strangers made me nervous even though everyone was wearing masks and had been temperature screened.
But the fact is I’m extremely fortunate because I have the resources and the type of job where I’ve been able to keep myself and my family at home for 8 months. Most of the people I saw yesterday don’t have that luxury. There were the elderly patients with chronic eye conditions, the medical center staff who need their paychecks, and the doctors who have to see people in person to help them.
What’s fucked up is how badly we’ve failed as a society to make it easier for more people to stay home and make it safer for people who can’t.
How do you feel about people who would find the moderate social distancing outcome to be preferable to the extensive social distancing outcome if accompanied by a significant increase in quality of life, but don’t believe that any such increase can justify the free-for-all or attempted quarantine outcomes?
