I know that in popular media the stereotype is that it’s always men who are into the idea of swinging, and they are the ones who need to convince their wives. Is this true in your experience? Maybe I’m a weirdo who’s been deeply trained by my puritan overlords, but swinging makes me sad. Monogamy-bro for lyfe.
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How anonymous is membership in these things? Or are all of you so woke that no one cares if others know that they swing?
One of the best LTWWs imo
Is anyone contemplating leaving if they aren’t kicked out?
Are you satisfied with the board’s diversity? If so, did it arise naturally or did you need to recruit people?
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I’ll tell one about me.
Weed became legal here a bit more than a year ago. I use to smoke in my teens and early twenties but hadn’t in like 20 years. I’m mid 40s.
So of course a month after it’s legalized I think “let’s try some at a play event!” What could go wrong?
Sideline, any drug use is prohibited at the events but people commonly partake before.
So I smoke a tiny bit and head over.
I’m feeling it and some early play is starting to happen. I am stark naked at this point. I stand up and…
I wake up a couple minutes later with a group of people fanning me and a lovely woman in full S&M gear telling me I passed out and that she is a nurse.
I was able to get up but they had already called an ambulance. So I’m upstairs talking to the EMTs, trying to pretend there aren’t like 25 naked people downstairs, explaining that I tried weed and it probably lowered my blood pressure so I fainted.
They tell me it’s like third third call that night with dumb gen Xers like me reliving their glory days and either passing out out thinking they are dying or ODing.
Needless to say I left early and made a few apologies the next day. 
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How do the groups handle the issue of sti/stds? Regular testing for members?
It’s not for everyone, to be sure. I don’t judge those who it’s not for. Everyone gets to design their own sex lives.
This stereotype is true, but of course not always. Men are very often the ones who bring it up in a relationship. However. Over the past 20 years women are getting far more open about their sexuality. Research is showing they are often more likely to get bored.
I have seen a lot of women be the one who pushed for openness but I would say PUDs are more common at the start.
A PUD (poly under duress) is someone who started out to please their partner but later fell in love with the culture.
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stultified ITT.
It’s not anonymous at all. It’s not like Eyes Wide Shut. It’s not safe if people can pretend to be other people.
I’m imagining the swinger equivalent of two people who I knew who worked in the same large department and by chance bumped into each other on a nudist beach abroad.
Does this ever happen in swingers world?
Haven’t heard anyone leaving.
Diversity is always an issue. Poly people tend to be middle and upper class white people, mostly cause we have the luxury of free time and disposable income.
15 years ago clubs were also segregated along orientation lines but less so now. There are still lots of LGBTQI+ only events, for obvious reasons.
What makes sex different than other parts of a relationship? There aren’t “housing swingers” who have multiple apartments with multiple partners (plus a main partner), right? We don’t have “parental swinging” either.
Er…maybe we do have “parental swinging”. We take take nephews/nieces to the ball game or whatever.
Is it hard to get in?
I wish. If I had my way there would be quarterly testing. My partner and I do this. However, we have no way of mandating this so people practice safe sex and manage play within their own boundaries.
To be part of the community is to accept a higher risk of STIs.
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Holy shit, you were friends with this person?
Yep. It does.
I went to a party about 10 years ago and a female prof from my Grad department was there. It was awkward at first of course. We never played and would just coordinate to make sure we didn’t overlap again.
How is the gender diversity in decision-making? Do you notice racial fetishism when non-whites participate?