I’m ded.
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Do you and your partner enjoy porn?
“Asi se hace:” was my go to back in the day.
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Just make sure you understand porn is kabuki theatre sex. It’s totally fake and by professionals. Blowjobs in porn can be especially extreme. It won’t be in everyone’s GGG portfolio.
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That’s totally subjective. It sounds like you don’t have much of a dialogue going? For example, I’m in the super minority and need teeth (!) but that is the default approach of almost no one since dudes have complained about it for centuries. I dunno what your specific issue is, but for me not being sensitive, it’s just stating that fact and then offering the option to be more aggressive. “I’m not that sensitive. I actually like teeth and you can go as hard as you want.” Give immediate positive verbal reinforcement if your partner does something you like.
I think it’s actually good for the very same reasons though: they come up with some totally crazy shit that people might really be into but wouldn’t have imagined without seeing it first.
For sure. I’m super pro porn. Just needs to be understood what it is. Like savage says, you don’t watch Fast and Furious and then expect you drive your car like that. 
What do you think about the exploitative nature of things like porn and sex work?
I would have less of a problem if we had a robust UBI in place.
I consider myself pro sex work but when someone is poor I feel like there is a certain amount of exploitation that goes into it.
I know this is off topic but I respect your opinion on issues like this.
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Generally if you access porn from major producers it will be mostly ethical. Amateur porn is more problematic. That being said, porn is going through it’s own #metoo right now.
Sites like kink.com are the best as they always have performers make a preference list, they get to sign off on the scene and each scene ends in a discussion of how it went.
As for exploitation, there is no doubt it goes on but I have no more issue with poor people doing porn than I do with them doing any job. It’s no more exploitation. The idea it is different is rooted in the idea sex work isn’t work or it’s more shameful than other work.
Another reason why I want UBI. All poor people would have more agency over where they work.
Still wouldn’t be perfect but it’s a step in the right direction.
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Maybe.
I also think since it’s illegal and unregulated it is also a dangerous job.
Porn isn’t illegal or unregulated. It’s heavily regulated. It has its own lobby.
I agree we don’t want anyone doing any work they hate for subsistence reasons. I just don’t want to differentiate sex work from that.
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Would prostitution go in the category of sex work?
That is what I was referring too being illegal. I should of been more clear.
I agree with not differentiating it from other work though.
Oh sorry I misunderstood. For sure it’s sex work.
I agree the illegality complicates it. Also the existence, albeit heavily exaggerated, of sex trafficking means there is real slave labour sometimes. It is very rare compared to all prostitution but does occur.
Ultimately, I’d say same thing. I don’t want anyone doing any work they hate ideally. I want people to have agency over their work, sex work or otherwise.
There are even labour organization movements among some sex workers like strippers.
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Get a male friend to come over and demonstrate to her on him how you like it.
Seriously though, my suggestion is that you communicate fairly honestly about it, except that I would frame it as you being difficult to please in this department rather than her needing to improve. Say that you have generally struggled to enjoy oral and need very specific stimulation and would she mind if the two of you tried to make it happen? That way you’re not blaming her and if she does get to the point where you’re having a good time, she’ll feel a sense of achievement rather than feeling like a remedial student who finally managed not to be a fuckup.
There’s a common misconception out there that men are all easy to please and that they all want much the same kind of stimulation. While some women do just suck at giving head, pun very much intended, it could also just be that her last partner(s) trained her into doing it the way they like.
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Sex on first date past age 40: yes or no? Is it enough already with that crap or what? I have a reason for asking but want honest opinions I’ll make a pole if needed
Of course. Why would age mean any kind of sex has to end.
I find the older I’ve gotten the more likely sex on a first date is to happen. But then again I hardly ever go on dates so small sample size.
I mean is it bad to have sex on a first date if the two of you are over age 40 or does it even fucking matter anymore at this point like who are we even trying to impress here?
I realize I’m skewing the results possibly
This for example, I am more or less at the opposite end of the scale and if a woman has been with Lawnmower_Man for a while and comes in hot with this kind of approach, my dick is taking out a restraining order against their mouth until we have a chat about this.
I don’t see what being 40 has to do with it? That’s an arbitrary age.