Coconut oil is the stone cold nuts. I keep a small bowl with it besides my bed and my girlfriend and I use it constantly (giving her a mini-massage with it, masturbating each other, using it as a bit of extra lube, etc.). Luckily she’s never had an issue with it.
Never got into swinging, but came close with an ex. We discussed it a bit so decided to set up a profile on AdultFriendFinder and look for another couple. We found a normal couple who looked attractive enough so we decided to meet for drinks. The plan was just to have a couple drinks and then plan a meet up on a later date if everyone was interested. I think they were interested, but I wasn’t very attracted to the girl so I passed. I broke up with that gf a couple weeks later, but would have liked to explore a bit more of that scene.
Because I’d used AFF a bit with the ex and saw that there were some very attractive single ladies (in Montreal), it piqued my interest. After leaving Montreal I had to move back in with my brother in Omaha for a couple months while planning my next move (it would be France), so I figured I’d give AFF a try and see what happens. Well, Omaha was a far cry from Montreal. I ended up meeting 2 women off the site, but neither were overly attractive, I’d say a 4 and 5 in looks. One we met for a coffee, then I went to her place a couple nights later. One invited me straight over to her place. Nothing really notable, although I do think AFF might be a decent resource in a better city. I never went back to using it b/c I got a lot better at using Tinder to meet women and that became my outlet.
In France I met a smoking hot girl on Tinder. She told me she had a boyfriend who was a cuckold and she was looking to meet a guy to be the “bull” or whatever. I wasn’t very interested in meeting both of them at the same time, but it opened the door to talk more about sex. I’ve studied tantra for awhile and can talk a big game, so I piqued her interest and she agreed to meet up directly at my place.
So she would come over and spend the night every Friday night for a couple weeks and eventually she asked if I wanted to do a sex show on webcam. It sounded interesting, so I figured why not? So we did a few shows on a site (Place Libertine I think it was called) and interacted w/viewers through chat. I think at one point we were the #4 most watched couple for the month with 900 peak viewers. Anyway, a couple months later I found out that her main reason for wanting to do the shows on webcam is that her boyfriend would watch as a way to humiliate him.
In New Zealand I practiced yoga for the first time ever and was hooked. There was a 40-something year old lady who was often in the same classes and we eventually started chatting more and more after class. Eventually we got a tea together and she mentioned that she was into tantra and recommended some reading material. I probably read a dozen books in a week or 2, tantra is a total sex-life changer imo. For some reason I never even met up with that lady in a sexual capacity, I think she had to go to Australia for work and we fell out of touch, but tantra was on my mind so I decided to search something like “tantra Wellington” online and see what I could find and some lady was offering tantric massages so I booked a session. Holy shit, that was hands down the #1 sexual experience of my life. I’ve tried a couple more massages in other places, but nothing ever came close.
Anyway, those are a few stories off the top of my head. Incidentally, my sex life got even crazier once I moved to Mexico and traveled Latin America a bit. In Mexico City I got into a period where I was kinda lazy and sick of the Tinder/online dating grind so I was matching with girls on Tinder and just telling them I was only interested in FWBs and seeing if I could get them to come directly over to my place. It actually worked quite well and I met 3 girls that way (one became a FWB for many months, the other 2 I wasn’t so interested in repeating with).
However, being that I’m 36 now, I’ve always had a LTR in the back of my mind so while I was having fun on the side, I would always schedule serious dates now and then. I matched with my girlfriend last May and we had a pretty good back and forth with a bit of sex talk. We agreed to meet up on a Friday night. Usually I don’t do Dinner on a first date, but I had a good feeling about her so we met at the entrance of a mall and then walked 10 minutes to a quiet bistro near my place. We sat down, ordered, and chatted for about 15 minutes.
Somehow I seguéd the convo to sex and before the food even arrived she surprised me by leaning over and kissing me! Normally my usual plan would be to have dinner (or drinks) then move the date to a park where I’d make my move, but my gf had other plans. So we continued making out and making out, long after the food had arrived, probably 30-40 minutes total. So I said to my girlfriend “my place is 5 minutes away, let’s box up the food and re-heat it at my place”. We headed back to my place and eventually got around to eating our Dinner at around 1AM. I don’t want to go into too many personal details about my girlfriend, but she’s amazing and one of the few women I’ve met who has a libido similar to mine so I was happy to trade all the sexcapades for a monogamous lifestyle.
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Actually, have you ever read the comments in news articles about climbing accidents or mountain search and rescues? Ninety percent of comments are some variation of “make them pay for it” or “they deserve it for doing stupid stuff”. In NH, they actually review the causes and charge you if they decide that you were negligent.
Some of those stories make me sympathetic to that approach. For every reasonable person that got caught is bad situation there’s someone that tried to climb a rock face in flip flops or went for a walk in the desert with no water.
While that’s certainly true, the money spent on search and rescue is peanuts compared to the money society spends to deal with a billion other bad decisions people make.
I met an Aussie couple once who had tried to climb Triglav, in Slovenia, without any gear. The guy didn’t even have sports shoes, he was climbing in casual dress shoes. They got caught in a storm halfway up and went into a shelter hut, where everyone else was heavily geared up. Everyone at the hut stares at these terminally underequipped idiots. Eventually someone comes up and says “let me guess, are you Australian?”
My point is, very racist imo.
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Does anyone have experience helping a partner understand how to give better oral? … Despite my strong belief in being honest and vulnerable, I’m not sure how to broach this. … Doesn’t feel good, and maybe because it feels like there’s an innate comparison, like I’m saying “Hey, it felt better with these other women, could you …”
Depends if they want to learn or not.
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Hey sweety, we have been together for a while and thought it might be good to have a chat about what we each might have been afraid to tell one another. Is there something I can do in bed to make it better for you?
Then let it lead to a discussion of oral on you but start with how oral on her is working.
Don’t do this in bed right before or after sex. Do it at the dinner table or somewhere separate from a sexual situation.
Don’t be judgmental. This is critical!
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Does she have any gay friends that you also know well enough to get to give her some lessons w/o revealing that you asked for them? Or alternatively somehow you could urge that conversation to happen in the most tactful way imaginable?
The reason I’m saying gay guy is the best BJ I ever got was from a girl in Thailand that I’m almost positive was born a boy. She looked absolutely gorgeous. But the vagina didn’t feel right inside at all. Pretty sure it’s not supposed to be scrapey.
A gay friend is a good idea but I would strongly recommend against being sneaky. Honestly is critical.
I tried that with my girlfriend. I told her I really liked the view better when she waxed her ass. I tried to be very sensitive and say it in a way that said it helped me get harder when we’re doing it doggie style which is good for both of us. Or some stupid shit.
That was an absolute unmitigated fucking disaster. I knew the second the words started coming out of my mouth that it was monumentally stupid. Then it turned into like this out of body experience where part of me is screaming at myself to just stop, shut up. But I had already started down the road.
Everything has a limit - including honesty imo.
Not surprising. You are basically saying “I’d like you to regularly undergo an expensive and painful procedure for what is a minor increase in my enjoyment during sex” and you focussed entirely on you and not her.
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Well she already did it once on her own accord and didn’t complain about it. She’s very proud of her pain tolerance and makes fun of mine all the time.
But yeah it was still colossally stupid on my part.
Anyway my point though is I was just being honest about what turned me on - which is always good right? Yeah - no.
I would just drop some hints as she’s doing it to help her out. When she does something you like say “keep doing that baby” or suggest improvements like “use a little more tongue” or “go further” or “slower/faster baby.” If you are gentle about it and reaffirm when it feels good, she’ll only be happy that she’s figuring out how to please you better.
And of course be willing to reciprocate.
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That why the world has Dave Savage and the savagelovecast. 
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I’m ded.
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Do you and your partner enjoy porn?
“Asi se hace:” was my go to back in the day.
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Just make sure you understand porn is kabuki theatre sex. It’s totally fake and by professionals. Blowjobs in porn can be especially extreme. It won’t be in everyone’s GGG portfolio.
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