I dunno, you seem to think it’s worth the effort.
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JFC that Ins0 post.
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Where were all these people when doctors were cutting off fun parts and injecting hormones into intergender babies so they would conform to societies norms. Seems it was perfectly ok to “fix” them back in the day.
The underlying assumption that others are triggered, and perpetually so, over things that you consider minor, may be causing you challenges in being able to feel empathy, which could be a foundational step towards better understanding other people.
I am a cis male. But I do have friends who identify as trans, and have worked with and socialized with many trans people.
I believe that it fascinates you “logically” because you(like all of us) make decisions & choices, and choose the inferences that we prefer to construct our understanding of reality based upon emotion. The justifications that we use afterward to validate our understanding, we label those as “logic”. That doesn’t necessarily mean that our views are logical in a Logic 101 sense. In the case of trans people, you most likely currently don’t have the level of understanding necessary to concede that a trans persons lived reality is as valid as your own, and hence is as “logically” justified as your own.
Note that your understanding of others will be limited if you make an assumption that they are making moral(good/evil) judgments that they as individuals are not making.
And even if your underlying assumptions were accurate, “lines” tend to blur in different places for all of us. So, there would be no answer that is the “right” answer across an entire group of people.
Seems that you are conflating gender identity with sexual orientation. You aren’t alone in that misunderstanding. However, it tends to correlate to people who have a limited understanding of the issues at hand. I encourage you to learn more. Perhaps a forum primarily populated by straight, cis males may not be the best place to find answers to your questions though.
I commend you for being respectful in your interactions with your daughter’s friend.
I will encourage you to not trivialize LGBTQ people by using phrasing like the bolded. Also, labels such as “normal” or “non-normal” are limiting and and at times harmful. A trans person told me once: “We are all born naked. The rest is drag.”
Consider changing your perspective on how young people these days live their lives. Instead of your quote above, you could make a statement like this one I wrote below.
“That’s a win for humanity, that despite all of the craziness in modern culture, children and teenagers demonstrate levels of acceptance and respect for each other that was unfortunately rarer in our generation at their ages.”
I am glad that you are in favor of calling people what they want to be called. A positive step that you could take from here would be to discard whatever it is that is leading you state that people asking for dignity and respect are somehow persecuting others. Nobody is being crucified.
I have misgendered trans people’s pronouns before. I genuinely apologized. I am still alive.
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