That’s what happens who name your kid Reiter.
As someone who spent a decade trying to “fix” a single mom who was a good mom but otherwise a complete disaster - good luck and I have no useful advice.
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I don’t think she’s a disaster. She doesn’t do drugs and has always been super chill. I think she’s just a good person super down on her luck.
She spent her time raising the kids and the father just randomly disappeared and is offering zero help. So she went from a stay at home mom to a mom with three kids and no financial support.
I know she’s trying to get on unemployment because she had a job for a bit but it’s super hard in CA because the line for it is so huge.
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I would try to get her linked up with social services and what have you, if she’s agreeable. CA has decent options I believe.
I suspect the most effective things you could do would involve taking on huge burdens, like putting her and the kids up, and would depend on many things that turn on her situation and yours.
Child support from the father(s) or social security, if deceased, may, or may not be, a realistic option.
Yeah she’s in the process of getting all of that. She’s smart and trying to work the system but it isn’t easy. It’s a TON of paper work and time.
Also trying to get unemployment and subsidized house but like I said it’s a struggle. Especially when you’re homeless
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving your friend some money as a gift if you can afford it. Moral support is obviously pretty important but unfortunately cash is a necessary part of life. I hope she can get back on her feet. How would she feel about you setting up a go fund me? If you put the link on here I am sure you could raise some money. I’d certainly donate.
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Moose now at the top of the list.
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Maybe buy her/them something they need as a present instead of giving cash (which could cause embarrassment)?
Do you feel a compulsion to help everyone you know?
I mean it’s not a bad thing that you have a good heart. But I wouldn’t feel obligated to get myself involved in the life of somebody you haven’t had contact with in 20 years. If she was that close of a friend to you, it probably wouldn’t have been 20 years since you last contacted her. She’s probably been through a lot of shit and to take on all of that without much (if any) experience doing so could make things much worse than better.
I agree with Rexx on setting up a gofundme. I had classmates do that in the past when they hit hard times. Beyond that, I mean you’re already trying to save someone from suicide. That’s already pretty damn remarkable
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I was with my gf at a running festival in the mid north SA town of Clare this weekend. In a cafe after the run:
Would it shock you to learn that the guy on the right was somehow a goddamn American, despite the borders being closed? Obviously I didn’t strike up a conversation with them but I eavesdropped a little bit. Snippets I caught were “yeah like in Port Arthur and Sandy Hook…” and “the thing about admiralty law is…” before I noped out.
Edit: also they put a sign up with some bullshit on it in the window of the cafe and the manager had to come and tell them to take it down.
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Fourth circle is refusing to go to the ER because you’re stubborn, then working in the night shift anyways because no one would have been able to cover in the ER you’re going to check into the moment the shift is done.
Watch it be nothing. So fucking annoying.
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PROOF
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Your American friend appears to have brought a stack of shirts with him and seems to be trading them for cutlery which he is using to construct a model 3-masted sailing vessel of some sort. Focusing investigative efforts on the admiralty law angle may be productive.
Wow, doc. Bedside manner needs work.
Also there aren’t really circles in hell unless they’re degenerate. They’re limacons.
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We found that although the entry of urgent care deterred lower-acuity ED visits, the impact was small. We estimate that thirty-seven additional urgent care center visits were associated with a reduction of a single lower-acuity ED visit. In addition, each $1,646 lower-acuity ED visit prevented was offset by a $6,327 increase in urgent care center costs. Therefore, despite a tenfold higher price per visit for EDs compared with urgent care centers, use of the centers increased net overall spending on lower-acuity care at EDs and urgent care centers.
https://www.healthaffairs.org/doi/full/10.1377/hlthaff.2020.01869
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The moose has a tight schedule and sticks to it
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Confirmed diverticulitis, which is best case scenario honestly. Just some antibiotics and percocets needed. Got a few days off too
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On the plus side, correct diagnosis percentage went up. Feel better soon.
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It’s basically a full time job to work the system. And you have to be very able-minded to do it. Somewhat ironic.
In LA county there’s a 5+ year wait for Section 8. Might be better in other counties. Kind of defeats the purpose of a short term helping hand. Yes I am broke now and know I will be in 5 years. And then once you get on it of course you never want to make too much money that you lose it again.
The rest - food stamps, welfare, medicaid - she should be able to get on fairly quickly. But will constantly have to go in and fight when it gets randomly turned off.
Also the state should be paying her child support and then going after the Dad. I assume that’s in the works too.
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