I agree with your therapist about her need for a med check ASAP. However, do you have any reason to believe she is not being honest with her med provider about her current functioning?
I might try to find really small things to encourage her to do that might be somewhat enjoyable for her. Nothing too involved, complicated or taking too much preparation. This would really depend on her and what you know of her. Going for a cup of coffee, visiting a favorite store or park.
It may be hard to find something but all you can do is ask. I wouldn’t try to force anything. Serious depressive states like this are completely overwhelming at times, but there are moments of sun light.
Just want to say thank you for everyone’s advice and attention. Somewhat coincidentally – or not – I think my post coincided with a kind of “worst day” experience and some corner may have been turned. … too soon to say that of course, but there are signs of enthusiasm and interest, and I’m hopeful.
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Couples therapy was a success! In a painful way.
Well…me and my significant other are splitting up. She realized after seven years that she’s not into women, just guys, so the relationship of seven years needs to end. This helps me understand why I have felt so lonely with her. And I would say her with me. My heart aches.
There is a bigger question. I am disabled and have no income. Living with her as the breadwinner made sense when we were a couple. She is still on board with a platonic partnership, but we may need to reassess in May if I am fortunate enough for the judge to approve me for disability income.
Wish me luck. I really need this thing to get approved. It would change my life to have any kind of reliable income. I’m not sure what options I will have if it’s denied again.
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Have you got a councillor that you can discuss the life management parts with?
Work, home, income, that stuff?
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I do not have a case manager if that is what you mean. I am assigned to different people depending on what aid I apply for, such as the person who interviewed me for food stamps.
More just someone that you can work this stuff through with. Make concrete plans.
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I do not have anyone like that.
Is there anyone outside of your partner you can discuss this with? Friend? Mentor?
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Maybe. I have a therapist who helped me file for disability. She can help.
I have an older friend in her 50s who I talk to almost every day about this stuff. She could help me make concrete decisions once options are there to be explored.
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Okay. That sounds good.
I’m just thinking that it’s probably time to get really practical ahead of time if you have the capacity now, as it might not be so easy in future.
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Thank you. I think it will be a lot easier to move forward if I get approved. I definitely have those two people in my corner to help me through whatever steps are next.
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I just found out that my sister and aunt are basically homeless. Their vehicles have been repossessed and theyre living with few possessions in a shitty motel.
I saw them six months ago and they were living in a pretty nice retirement community. Wtf. They have few resources, arent telling people about their situation, have failing health and a mountain of debt. My brother called last night to say a friend of theirs learned about the situatjon and reached out on facebook.
I have no idea how to help. My aunt cant work, has diabetes but lives on sugar, and collectors are getting her social security when it hits the bank each month. My sister works in nursing homes and has limited skills. They are 500 miles from here.
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What state? I’m not sure how much the State can help you personally, but reaching out to the state DHS might be a good place to start, and then the HUD department might be able to help with housing assistance. Not sure if their state has a cap on percentage of income that can be clawed by creditors, but they might. Something to look into as well.
Ty. We have a friend on the ground there reaching out to DSS. The state is SC.
Best of luck, I dont know anything about southern politics outside of “Im really glad I don’t live there anymore.”
Hopefully they have a decent safety net and somebody will be able to help step in. Far too often getting the right help is just about luck of the draw in getting the right person on the phone.
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Might also try the SC Department on Aging, SCDOA, they may have some resources. There’s some legal assistance for seniors, not sure in what circumstances though
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Sorry I don’t know how I did that
Update.
Still way wayup 2 months later.
Came back from leave to shit stressful job. On the brink of a breakdown, spoke to my boss. Agreed to taking one day a week off.
Other than that. Boss doesn’t say anything and is awkward even talking about it.
Doing 5 days of work in 4 days. It’s definitely better. And was better for my mental health for a few weeks, but that’s no longer working. This job just stresses me the fuck out.
Seeing a psych (after 6 week wait) on Friday about getting meds.
It’s getting pretty clear that doing my current job with my current mood issues is not sustainable. Not sure what I do with that fact.
I may need to just rip off the band aid and ask for 2 weeks off, but not sure that coming back to a shit show with none of the work being done will do anything but result in me going straight back to this stupid stressed out hypomanic state.
Paused to re read that agitated hot mess stream of consciousness… And yeah. That’s a pretty good reflection of where I’m at right now
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Have you tried anything like Wellbutrin? That really helped my mood a ton.
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