https://twitter.com/ItsEstaFiesta/status/1348667594203672577?s=20
(this is a thread discussing hate for how many men Lori Harvey–daughter of Steve Harvey and newly announced girlfriend of Michael B Jordan–has dated at 24yo compared to the OP in her late 30s)
Just found this thread and read through the whole thing and what really resonated was when goofyballer went out to a bar/restaurant with someone while sick with a cold. Remember those days?! What a superspreader!
I watched an episode of Twilight Zone last night. Season 1, Episode 7, The Lonely, starring Jack Warden as Corry, a convicted murderer whose punishment is 50 years alone on an asteroid except for visits to leave supplies. They give him a female robot for company.
Spoilers in case someone wants to watch.
Eventually, he is pardoned but he has to leave the robot behind. He’s reluctant to leave her so the ship’s captain shoots her in the face. Narrator: “…Mr. Corry’s machines, including the one made in his image, kept alive by love, but now obsolete.”
It’s still hard not to see things in the context of the subject of this thread, but what’s the moral here? Machines are disposable? Ok, I guess. But what about a machine that’s indistinguishable from a person? And why not go all the way-- dispose of people too. It doesn’t have to be literal, but remember Corry killed someone.
So is love ultimately meaningless? Take comfort where you can and move on?
@Trolly since he’s a big fan of Zone.
For laughs but with a sponsored therapy site recommendation at the end.
https://twitter.com/AnnaAkana/status/1354131237649178629?s=19
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.
Been thinking about it. I suppose it’s true, but those who say you can’t have love without hate have a point too.
If it matters, versions of the quote above are variously attributed.
I hope you all had a great Valentine’s even if you didn’t have anyone to share it with. If you feel lonely, the blues are always there for you.
Vday story. Asked a long time friend/girl I’ve felt I flirted with for a very long time to be my quarantine valentine and she just responded " happy valentines day StimAbuser! " with some hearts gif.
My vday message was kind of lazy and basic, but still pretty surprised. Felt like we’ve flirted for a long time but been in different relationships. I recently said we should go on a hike and she replied " It’s a date <3 "
Kind of a bummer since confidence has been at an all time low, but I guess that’s just privileged for someone who has always had high confidence.
Maybe I’m just dim but even if her response isn’t all that encouraging, it doesn’t sound like a clear rejection either. Maybe she’d like a more specific/direct request.
Edit: In my experience with M, she got annoyed with me that I said she had an “open invitation” to drop by (we were neighbors). But she was perfectly fine if I made it a “date” to do something on a specific day/time. I never quite understood why that was so important to her, maybe it was presumptuous in her mind, idk.
Having a beer, so one more post.
I read a clickbait article about Milana Vayntrub, who’s better known as ATT girl in commercials. Her story is spookily parallel to my friend M’s. Same former Soviet country of origin; similarly, her family left when she was a kid due religious persecution; they went through the same intermediate country on the way out; both were helped to become established in the US by sponsor families. They’re even kind of similarly cute.
I guess it’s not an uncommon thing. Mila Kunis is another example, though she came from the Ukraine. Still, it’s interesting/annoying how random things keep bringing me back to thoughts of M.
Milana, fwiw, had a youtube comedy channel with a friend which was pretty well done. Here’s a link if you want to check it out.
I mean, I can see how this could be fun… just temper your expectations correctly
Stim!
If I may, here is my read on what happened:
You said: “Please be my Quarantine Valentine.”
She said: “Sure!”
However!
What you thought you said: “Please agree to be my Quarantine Valentine and then engage in the behaviors I would want from a QV.”
What she thought you said: “Please agree to be my Quarantine Valentine. I will let you know if I want/need anything else.”
I mean she could be sitting there wondering “WTF? Is that all?”
You can still reach out to her for some post-VDay QV fun. “Help! I forgot my favorite flavor of ice cream! The only cure is for someone to help me remember by looking at infinite pictures of flavors…”
I mean it wasn’t an actual date lol. We both take covid seriously and don’t see other people right, so it was just a dumb quarantine valentine. But yeah after having slept on it, it’s not really the rejection I was taking it as lol.
Make sure to put that in your wedding vows
Hey! (It’s true, though. History says I’m a serial fixater/piner.)
Appreciate what you have, imo.
I hadnt seen it before, but the most recent Tom Papa standup on Netflix “You’re Doing Great” really hit home for my wife and I. It’s like he wrote it specifically for us. He has a child just old enough to be leaving the house, and another younger one. It’s a pretty optimistic standup about love and life though, about how we all work really hard and are doing good enough and we shouldn’t have to worry about influencers and diet commercials and etc etc etc.
Highly recommended
Hmm I posted yesterday about going on a hike and who was coming camping with me when this ended and she was the first to say me. Who knows though my friends love camping.
I just don’t want to push it because we’re friends first and last thing I want is to make that awkward.
It sounds like she might enjoy camping AND sharing a sleeping bag with you.
Well THAT sounds familiar. You may be on a road that has no turns.
But good luck!