Exactly what I thought
She’s putting you to the test.
She has kids and can’t afford to sustain mental anguish over a guy who might or might not be there for her.
You need to decide what you want. If you want a long term relationship start thinking of ways that you could prove yourself to her and be willing to accept the negative emotions that come with putting it all on the line and failing.
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Not to sound cold, but there’s also a pretty good likelihood she has lots of irons in the fire right now, and something good happened with one of the other ones. No reason she couldn’t have been genuinely interested in exploring the option of reconnecting with you, but also keeping her options open.
I do think something that might have scared her is how much her kids loved me. Like begging for me to stay and always wanting to hang out, probably worried how much it would hurt the kids if I was around a few months and then dipped out.
Which is weird because I normally don’t like kids lol. Not dislike or anything but normally I don’t play and have fun with them.
I could see that for a lot of other girls but not this one, she’s pretty religious and has been with two other guys in like 5 years, one of them being her ex husband. Her Ex husband left her to take care of the kids and moved to thailand when he got rich in crypto, then was in a relationship for like 9 months recently and the guy was also religious and kinda used that to be abusive man over woman shit. So she’s really apprehensive about guys and was even towards me, the hooking up kinda just happened but after that she wanted to take things slow.
I mean she doesn’t even have time for lots of guys working and taking care of kids on her own. She only brought me around because I had hung out with the kids a few times as just a friend and we’ve known each other for like 14+ years. I was shitty with the cheating but afterwards was really apologetic and eventually we were friends while she was married and also when in her other relationship, so despite everything trusted me enough to bring me around them.
Definitely not the type to have a bunch of different guys around her kids and will be very picky about the ones she does.
Update. So I guess she was going through a ton of family drama with he grandparents trying to steal from her.
She did say she isn’t in a place to pursue an active romance because her life is so crazy right now with the kids etc. So yeah, I’d probably need to commit to something serious to move forward
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what happened with the friend and his gf you were sleeping with?
Oh god dude.
So I stopped it like a month ago because I started to feel uncomfortable and because they started fighting about stuff they both swore was unrelated. She went back to Florida for two weeks and they broke up.
Me and him still seem cool but I think the whole thing was a bad idea
Ok yea I remember you saying you cut it off and why but def didn’t know that they broke up
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Whew lord awkward update on this. They’re still broken up but she’s coming back to California for awhile and like wants me to take her to a party and I didn’t want to be like uh obviously no, so I was just like oh I work a lot but I’ll see.
Like it’s a desert party so I’m assuming she wants us to camp together?
Really surprised she wants to put me in that situation. Some context for why I didn’t immediately say no is he broke up with her and left her in a shitty situation and I feel bad for her. Obviously no so way in hell am I chilling with her alone though
Stronger man than me
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Stim played by Eddie Murphy:
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It’s the new beard
Alright got bored and signed up for tinder. Been talking to this lady from China. Her location is like 5 miles from me but she said she is afraid to meet up because covid and she can’t do the vaccine because she had an allergic reaction.
She did send pictures of a ton of groceries her assistant got her, she owns a pretty successful business.
Is this a dude? Gotta be something going on with not wanting to meet up. But she’s clearly not trying to hustle money out of me, she just likes to chat. And honestly the conversations are pretty good
Isnt the whole point of tinder to meet up with people? Or has it evolved past that?
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How much Google-stalking have you done?
I vote for this. The covid stuff could just be an excuse. Culturally it’s hard to tell sometimes what’s going on but it could be there’s some fear of disapproval from family or friends. That could be for dating outside the culture or even for dating at all. (I had a friend who liked to hang out but said they didn’t “date for fun”. I guess it was fine as long as it wasn’t explicitly romantic.)
I think all her other family is in China. She’s only been here 3 year.
She did say she left china because of her marriage so maybe something going on there?
I told her I’m ok with just chatting but I would like to know her intentions so I could set my expectations. She said she definitely wants to meet when it’s safe…
I tried to explain it’s not going to get a whole lot safer. She thinks everyone is going to get vaxxed and it’ll be ok lol
If Tinder is anything like Facebook Dating, run far away. Fully 20% of the profiles and half of my matches until I gave up are Chinese speaking scammers. They are never in your town*, always want to message on a platform they can’t be tracked and eventually ask you to do something weird like “Invest” with them. Been down the road with dozens of them.** Any kind of indication they are affiliated with China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, Malaysia or Singapore is an auto scammer.
**A couple said they didn’t want to meet because of Covid.
** One might wonder why it took me so long to keep trying. Well, finding a date was always to be super unlikely, a 95% chance the person was a scammer was no different than a 95% chance they think I’m a loser. They never successfully scammed me, I eventually gave up because it was just too mind numbingly predictable.
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Glory holes are safe.
Have you verified her business? Tell her to send her assistant over to you.