Weird, I sent you a PM but it must not have gotten through for some reasons. Could everyone else send ggoreo a PM to make sure it’s not just me?
This last marshmallow has gotten totally gross
Origin story?
Here’s what I don’t really get. Every up or down vote to ban or contain a poster has failed. And yet a large part of the community is fed up with the petty squabbling. I’m not sure how to line those two things up.
How do you mod a forum where nobody has ever been wrong?
I’m not sure rules and guidelines on what mods should or should not do really matter. The simple fact is the mods do whatever they feel is appropriate and will not result in significant backlash. They’re not going over a checklist to make sure they’re in full compliance with §423.01a(rev. 2.3). Personally I think that’s fine, and there’s really no practical way to codify most of this stuff anyway.
What I do think is apparent is that there is a rough consensus that the moderators aren’t quite doing as much as many would prefer to keep things reasonably civil around here. There doesn’t seem to be a widespread desire for a Didsian iron fist, just for a little more effort to prevent the worst of the dumb drama, or at least lessen its frequency.
I also realize that some here don’t mind the dumb drama at all, and at times even enjoy it. But this is a place we all have to share, and that dumb drama is a huge turnoff for lots of people. We should be able to find a compromise where dumb drama is allowed its place in limited circumstances, but isn’t given the opportunity to metastasize and seriously impact the forum experience for the large majority who want nothing to do with it.
Cliffs: Moderators should moderate moderately more, but only in moderation.
Thank you, that was extremely unhelpful.
Silent majority
S1E28, A Nice Place to Visit!
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I hate to say it but people don’t want moderation because they are afraid of being moderated.
Ive never been moderated here or 2p2 and id rather not have a more heavy hand or no insult rule. Partly because the insults just get woven into the arguments. And partly because this only comes up when they are directed at some but not others.
No one started a thread about the insults here. And yes i know they are going all directions. Still it seems people are ok with insults just not if they are made to the cool kids.
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Here’s what I don’t really get. Every up or down vote to ban or contain a poster has failed. And yet a large part of the community is fed up with the petty squabbling. I’m not sure how to line those two things up.
That’s confusing to me as well. For example, I think even in amongst this weekend’s drama there were some people arguing that Inso shouldn’t have been banned. Maybe I’m wrong and nobody was actually saying that, but it seems like there was some disagreement, when from my point of view it should have been a slam dunk turbo ban.
Anyway, I think maybe some folks here weight the “free speech” type of values more than the “be nice (or at least don’t be a complete asshole)” values. That’s a valid point of view.
For my part, I just think that with a small increase in anti-asshole policies and actions we can maintain the free speech values, but with less angst and drama. Shrug emoji
Good post.
No one started a thread about the insults here. And yes i know they are going all directions. Still it seems people are ok with insults just not if they are made to the cool kids.
This is a great post. There are definitely 2 sets of rules, or boundaries here. There is also one mod who openly seeks out areas to spew his aggression.
Thanks mang.
Oh, and by the way,
Sent with good intentions, I assure you!
I absolutely do. Especially since modding has been next to zero.
Ive never been moderated here or 2p2 and id rather not have a more heavy hand or no insult rule. Partly because the insults just get woven into the arguments.
I’m not sure what you mean by the bolded?
And partly because this only comes up when they are directed at some but not others.
No one started a thread about the insults here [the Cactus COVID thread]. And yes i know they are going all directions. Still it seems people are ok with insults just not if they are made to the cool kids.
I can’t speak to that thread specifically because I put it on mute as soon as it got split out from the COVID megathread, but, since you brought it up…
This is a great post. There are definitely 2 sets of rules, or boundaries here. There is also one mod who openly seeks out areas to spew his aggression.
Look, I agree with what I think you are saying, which is that the rules should apply equally and fairly to everybody. That’s important, and we don’t want cabals of mods smacking down their enemies and empowering their cliques (to use a word that got used a lot this weekend).
However, as we’ve seen, different people can see the same situation and interpret it differently. If you see examples of unequal treatment, make a thread here and let’s get the community to weigh in. If there is a mod who is abusing their status, let’s take a look and see what should be done.
I’m actually trying to make things a little more concrete in some small way so these kind of issues are easier to grapple with. I acknowledge that injustice is possible here and this won’t fix all of it, but my take is, let’s not let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
Okay, y’all I’m off to bed. I’ll be busy with work tomorrow so I don’t know if I’ll have the time or mental/emotional bandwidth to continue to be super engaged with this thread.
But if anybody else, especially the less prolific posters, has thoughts about this question I’d really like to hear them. The more voices the better, imo.
Last thought before I shut it down: Should I/we post about this thread in a few (emphasis on few) of the more highly-trafficked threads in an effort to get more input? We’ve done that on some occasions before, and maybe it would be good here too? Thoughts?