Ugh I would never put myself in that position.
Meh. She’s my mother and I’m here to see my family.
Was supposed to be in Boston this week but got so sick that I couldn’t walk. Killed the whole trip.
I’m going to D.C. after New Year’s (which will be spent with my non-deplorable family members in Philly).
You do you but man I couldn’t be a party to that. Of course I’m an outlier (and cut off my mother 5 years ago for non politics reasons) so yeah. I also never accept gifts of any kind including meals from other adults. I’m a weirdo apparently.
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Yup.
But to be fair, we’re posting on an internet forum about politics instead of interacting with people face-to-face. So I’d argue that we’re all weird in a way.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that
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Congratulations on going no contact. I started talking to my mom again (after 10 years) 6-7 years ago now and seldom does a month go by that I don’t regret it. Hilariously I did so mostly because of my middle brother… who I’m now no longer speaking with largely because he’s a conspiracy theorist Trumpster fire.
No gifts from other adults? Oh yeah you had a bad childhood too. Afraid of strings I’m guessing?
Childhood was fine outside of narcissist mother. I just don’t accept gifts or meals from adults - I am an adult and can pay for my own things and refuse to owe other people anything or implicitly owe people things. Again I realize I am an outlier and most people don’t feel this way.
Take that hot dog man!
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I have a cousin who called me up sobbing one day. It was like That dry-heaving, heavy blubbering, the kind reserved for the worst of tragedies, where you’re legit worried about the person. The reason he was so devastated was that Dale Earnhardt had died. My cousin was 30 at the time.
Anyway he’s a huge Trumpkin so we don’t talk much now.
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I definitely have the issue of strings attached. I get almost no satisfaction from giving or receiving gifts thanks to my mom. I had the most first world problems narcissistic upbringing. I had everything I needed and more but there were always conditions that had to be met and restrictions and guilt trips later on when I tried to say no to doing something.
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How is this working for you?
Do you or the people you love and who love you feel like something is missing without this?
I don’t care about gifts but have made each holiday in recent years to know people well enough to make them custom gifts.
It doesn’t have to be fancy. Someone who likes to snack on chips would probably like if you gave them a variety pack with a sheet of handwritten one-sentence reviews for each flavor.
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I’m not sure if anyone is interested in your review of Funyuns.
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Or they might.
At this point in my life I honestly can’t think of anything anyone could buy me in a store or online that I would need or want. My brother made me a dopey card from my birthday using cut-outs from old Calvin and Hobbes cartoons, which meant exponentially more than anything he could have spent $$ for. The time spent meant everything.
MM MD
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One of the best presents I have received was heirloom seeds. So thoughtful, something I could always use and as I save seeds I use them every summer and think of the person who gave them to me. Similar thing with a lemon tree.
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For sure. I guess in the end it’s less the quality of the gift and more the thought someone put into it that touches. I try to do the same.
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I do agree gift giving can get ridiculous though.
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On the topic of giving gifts- now that all the millenials in our family are removed from college, a few years ago we decided to draw names out of a hat at thanksgiving for individual gifts plus one gag gift.
Apparently some of our liberal family members trolled our trumpers too hard the past several years because this year it was decreed by the older folks that we’re just doing a white elephant for gifts. I think it was because my mom’s older cousin gave an uncle a “DOPE” shirt with trump on it, in the color scheme of Obama’s “Hope”.
Non-politics, last year one of my cousins got me the below as a real/troll gift. Little does she know it’s not a troll gift for me.
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Really useful for those shitty parties where the theme is awful sweaters.
There are a lot of things I could use that I could conceivably get for Christmas. Socks or a hoodie would be fine.
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