It was rhetorical.
I know, I feel bad. itās just the timing of it with her staying here. I wanted to give it time to see, and each day there are moments Iām like, āMaybeā¦ā but ultimately I go to bed each night feeling like I know what I have to do, and trying to figure out the least mean time to do it. We had groceries coming today so doing it before that seemed bad, now theyāre here and can be split up if needed.
Maybe tomorrow.
There are also moments that I think make it really clear, so I have to focus on those and just do it. Itās going to suck - the pandemic really made a mess of the situation. But, it is what it is.
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Now do one for 12-18 months of dry spell.
Hang in there dude. Sounds like you know itās for the best. If you get desperately lonely in eight months and reconsider, she appears to be quite into you. Gotta think sheād be willing to clog your toilet anytime.
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Yes, I went through something very similar recently, including the splitting of the groceries. I left a nice strip steak in her freezer among other things.
But worst of all, Iām now realizing, is the timing in the midst of this pandemic. Itās now impossible to resume dating aside from Zoom dating. No bars, restaurants opened. Even the fn library is closed. For once Iām starting to envy the married among us. They are positioned far better to, ahem, ride out this pandemic.
I did miss her for the first week or 2. When you are accustomed to having someone there with you most of the time and then theyāre not, itās tough. And this social distancing makes it more difficult to get on with life.
Best of luck to you.
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Iāve driven all over Wales and it was what I imagine much of New Zealand is like.
Note: I havenāt been to New Zealand
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Hahahahahahahaha.
Source: am married.
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I imagine any couple that wasnāt already living together or at least close to it was doomed going into the quarantine. Either you end up moving in too early or you straight up donāt see each other for several months straight.
Iām very lucky to have already been living with someone. I think Iād go nuts if I was quarantined alone.
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Know your audience
I have independently confirmed this by being quarantined alone.
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Yup. I was just starting to get back into dating myself.
Once coronavirus hit, I just gave up.
Iāve been single for around 4 years and have had no interest in hooking up because of a combination of factors (focusing on work, bonding with my daughter, generally being happy with my own space) until I met a really cool single woman at a party in late February and we immediately hit it off. She lives 70 miles away so it was only ever going to be an occasional thing, at least initially, but we met up for a night out in early March and it went really well.
High five coronavirus. Greatest cockblocker since my brother in law.
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Do the rules in the US prevent you from visiting a romantic partner? The state of Victoria here briefly tried to prohibit that, and like four hours later were like UM, IN LIGHT OF COMMUNITY CONSULTATION AND HAVING CONSIDERED ALL THE FACTORS yeah you get to have sex, we donāt want a goddamn riot on our hands.
Iām in the position of a reasonably new relationship, itās been interesting because not having even intended to get into a relationship before meeting her, itās definitely accelerated things because when Iāve seen another living human face to face over the last however many weeks itās been her 95% of the time.
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Yeah, for me living together and marriage are pretty much the same thing. I had my doubts about this one from the very beginning, so we never moved in together, maintaining our own homes. Iām a firm believer in maintaining separate places unless you in fact tie the knot.
As an aside, I was wondering if consistent libertarians refuse to get married because itās enforced by the state. Iām not a libertarian but the state enforcement thing is what always bothered me. Imean libertarians wouldnāt want to join in voluntary union at the end of a shotgun barrel, unless it was the irate father- in- law to be, would they?
Are there any living libertarians on this site? If not, can we recruit some? Or one. They amuse me. Perhaps we can draw straws and shortest straw will become designated libertarian for a week and they get to post all sorts of nonsensical stuff.
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Sorry to hear you went through that. Is Zoom dating actually a thing people are doing? Ugh.
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Yeah, exactly. It was like, welp, letās give this a try, I guess? I was making out ok alone for the first 5 weeks or so, but that was light work compared to whatās ahead.
All you lonely people have my sympathies, but for us introverts this whole worldwide plague thing has some notable upsides.
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Heck no. We donāt even have rules about not storming the statehouse with your loaded assault rifles.
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