Your insanely high emotional IQ “dooms” you to being a centrist in these matters.
Tough spot to be in with the acceleration of the internet age.
I get your angst since you are an unofficial mod on this forum.
It’s hard to articulate how much you mean to this place. You were kind to me when I revealed my current life status which rendered me a scourge on this board in many ways.
At least once a week when I’m petting my dog I think of your little guy who’s with the angels/earth right now.
If there’s anything I can do to be a friend do not hesitate to ask.
I will respond to that more tomorrow. But for now:
Please say Hi to Mrs T and my apologies if she is not happy with you being here. I am going to do my best to not engage with you today anymore. I really feel for her.
Ggoreo’s approach to the PMs is exactly the right approach. The participants within that thread should determine what, if any, of it remains public. It was their private messages and it should have never been shared.
Fwiw I fast forwarded past 99% of those messages, I didn’t have time to read 1200 PMs. Maybe got the first 10 and newest 10 for context when I saw a new thread was “made.”
Lots to unpack here. All of this is so disappointing and reminds me why I had sworn off these sort of messageboards for years. This place was such a good source of COVID info, among other things. Given the people involved, I hoped it would be different. Oh well. Thanks to everyone who tried to contribute in good faith.
It doesn’t matter. The issue is that it is good when it is the same. The thread talk and PMs. I mean… if someone annoys me to the level that I am going to talk shit about them in PMs , then you can be sure that I communicate it publicly to the face of the person in pretty much the same way. I believe that it is pretty healthy for social interaction and more important for my psyche.
I don’t agree with an admin reading the PM or making it public. But once I knew there was a 50 person PM thread, I’d sure be initiating a conversation about it in public and asking what’s going on.
To the posters itt screaming: THIS WAS A PRIVATE PM. Yeah. And some of you posted some lame Mean Girls BS in it. Personally I’d be more ashamed then screaming about my private group chat being outed.
I like jmakin as a person and a poster, but what he did violated his responsibilities as a forum administrator. I also think there are mitigating circumstances here since he was the target of an orchestrated campaign with a goal – at the very least – of making him upset. I don’t think he should be permabanned, but I think a temp ban would be appropriate.
Alright, that’s good to hear, I envy you in a way if you have the ability to time a lapse in having a conscience right after you were a part of some truly shady shit.
And why did this group devolve into mean girls shit basically instantly? There really should be some introspection here by other people. You’ve been about the only one to own anything here and I respect that.
To add on to this a bit, if there was a group of posters who felt that they weren’t represented within the forum and wanted to brainstorm ways of improving it, isn’t this exactly how they should go about it? Yea there was some shit-talking in the thread, but there also seemed to be some constructive ideas being thrown around by people who are invested in this community and wanted to think of ways to improve it rather than leave.
For those feeling like an outsider to all of this, one of the regs in the PM thread expressly said up front within the thread “hey, I don’t want inclusion in this PM thread to be some sort of “who is cool enough” game.” Again, not cosigning the result of the discussion (a subforum), but it seems clear that there was positive intent within that thread. It wasn’t all petty name-calling.