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covid thread?
Congratulations on figuring out a way to voice your objections in a way that doesnât get you temp-banned.
Of course, heâs allowed to talk about his tripâright or wrongâbut this isnât some safe space where heâs allowed to do so without criticism, so long as that criticism is done in a reasonably civil manner. We have an entire thread that was split off because one guy wanted to defend going to the gym while everyone else is critical.
Are you arguing that he should be banned for going on his trip? Or that posts about it should be deleted? To what degree should people who you disagree with be allowed to post things that you disagree with?
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Iâve been avoiding that thread because weâre lucky enough to be in a pretty good place where I am. It seems to be the root of a lot of drama on here.
Allowed? Heâs an owner of the site, as are you. The default is certainly that heâs allowed to post about it. If you want there to be some kind of rule against it, start a thread with a poll with your rule suggestions, because thereâs not even a hint of a rule against it right now.
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I think anyone with a sense of decency should shame him to pieces when he posts about it. I think those with decency should also shame those who are currently jerking off to the idea of hearing about his international sexual exploits during a global pandemic.
And yes, if I were mod I would delete any internationally flying to fuck during Covid trip report that was posted. Itâs insulting to those of us taking it seriously.
The only reason he gets a pass and cactus doesnât Is because heâs friends with yâall from the other site.
Rank hypocrisy all around
People with decency do not weaponize shame. To do so is inhuman and evil.
Opinions vary, of course.
I agree with Watevs on this one (and that is pretty rare).
He expressed his annoyance at the entire situation which we are encouraged to do (in the spirit of community moderation). And any trip report of that type definitely does not belong in the Covid thread or the thread that it was mentioned in tonight.
Cactus wasnât deleted. Suzzer will get his own thread if there is a sufficient derail, but he wonât be deleted either. Cactus helped cause a derail by defending himself. Suzzer at least seems to have some sense of shame about what he has done, so I donât think he will push back much, but he also said this was about more than sex and he had some hope for a long-term relationship.
We live in a lonely world and I can understand someone grasping for some chance of happiness. Itâs not what I would do, but I accept that for some people it might be worth the risk because their calculus is different.
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Dunno how cactus has been moderated. I tried to take his name out of the title before I was a mod, but someone put it back and he said he didnât mind. If you think Cactus has been sanctioned by the mods for things that arenât against the rules, you should address that rather than try to have the mods enforce rules that donât exist.
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Weâre encouraged to express annoyance? I donât know about encouraged, but whatever, itâs fine. It would still be absurd for mods to make up a rule that you canât post about yoloâing covid.
If you want that rule, go ahead and try to start some democratic process to make it happen.
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I donât see how itâs different to people posting anything else about their lives - if it meets with forum disapproval theyâll certainly know about it.
With this thing not disappearing for a long time yet we might also see an interesting spread of ideas about what is and isnât acceptable behaviour during a pandemic.
I agree with PocketChads. But both can be true. There is a bell curve of what activities each member is willing to engage in during these Covid times. W finds a trip of the kind that S took to be totally unacceptable and has expressed his outrage about both the trip and a trip report. Thatâs not to say that many others of us havenât done things that we probably shouldnât have done as well.
I donât know how to multi-quote in this forum and since we have a max of one post every 15 mins I will reply to microbet here too.
The principal role of mods on this forum is not to âenforce the rulesâ of the forum. We collectively do not believe in that framework for this forum. So letâs drop the canard about âwhat rule did he break?â. Mods can and should help improve the quality of the discourse of this forum. And this is done mostly by being good posters themselves and occasionally chiding others as appropriate.
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If you highlight the text you want to quote and select âQuoteâ when the option pops up, that quote will be inserted into your current reply/message.
Youâre Irish, right?
Iâve got an Irish friend, and one of the funniest things heâs said to me (and heâs generally a pretty funny fucker) was âonly sex ed I got from my dad was this - when this goes hard [points to crotch], this goes soft [points to head]â.
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He also explained to me what âcan the dag put out a fire?â means. I think he might be from the wrong side of townâŚ
No. And itâs not a canard. And âchidingâ? What are you suggesting? And, like you said with community modding, the community can chide and thatâs what watevs did. This is not him complaining about Suzzer, itâs him complaining about the Suzzer not being moderated.
Although the rules are not hard and fast, what the mods are trying to do is interpret whatâs there the best they can. Thatâs what Iâve been doing. I donât even think there should be mods ffs, at least not to discipline regular users. But, Iâm not trying to rule over people here, Iâm trying to do my best at fulfilling the communityâs democratically expressed wishes as well as doing my turn taking a post.
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