I do realize I’m also talking about a bar vs a restaurant but even at a bar both the last statements are way wrong. I think you are making this way more complex than it has to be.
The high today was 90 F, which barely qualifies as warm. A lot warmer in my car, which had been sitting in the sun. When I got in I just sat there with the windows closed until I reached equilibrium. Ahhh.
I mean I have eaten at restaurants every day for the last decade, I try very hard to be nice to the servers and none has shown the slightest thought of hanging out with me.
And you think telling them to try to look better or that they could look better or to smile is going to help? That’s my question here.
Woah
I remember him saying he only eats out a few times.
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Of course not. I don’t have the foggiest idea how to pick up women, so the least I can do is not creep them out.
Well, I am referring to the comment where you only found one thing about Grease guy’s post being inflammatory. You basically agreed with the guy’s actions because it sucks for you apparently.
The closest thing I saw to a complaint about makeup is telling one she looks better with the fake eyelashes. It didn’t seem like he threatened to leave if she didn’t, though he said he did stop coming.
I totally get you guys are probably right about this stuff, it just sucks for me.
I’m just saying to keep up being nice and normal. That shit isn’t going to work and if it does the lady likely has other motives.
Sorry if I"m being harsh. I love you iron from the city-data days.
Like, even if you are hot and start telling women to smile and improve themselves only the shittiest of them is going to respond.
I absolutely do not agree with his actions. It’s just that a consequence of that is there is nothing a guy can appropriately do to push the issue. There is zero room between what he did and being strictly business/small talk.
Edit: except for asking about schedules, which is only barely out of bounds.
Hi.
Actual, real life woman here, who has worked in several service jobs that relied on tips.
Please don’t do this shit. Just be nice, don’t leer or stare or comment on looks. Something you probably don’t consider is that you, as the customer, have POWER in this situation. In most cases, female servers/poker dealers/etc have little to no recourse to push back against anything like this that might make them feel uncomfortable. That gives you power, and it makes the server feel helpless against any sort of advance.
Not to mention, most tipped workers are trying their hardest, at the very least, to not rock the boat. And at the best, to be nice to you so you’ll tip.
Hint: she’s not being nice/wearing makeup/etc because she luuuuurvs you. She’s doing it so you’ll tip more. I smiled and made nice with some of the most deplorable assholes on the planet because if I wasn’t, it would cut into my pay.
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Yes, I know all that. That’s why I don’t flirt with servers, because it’s highly likely that any niceness they show me is just fishing for tips.
A lot of waitresses give me their numbers without me asking. How big of an asshole am I for calling none of them?
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You didn’t ask though. Pimp.
That is even far too cynical, bro. It’s the basic responsibility of the job. It is also basic human decency to be nice people. It is a really shitty thing that women feel like they can’t be nice to unknown men without the presumption of either sexual interest or their own financial interest.
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I go out to eat good food and service and I tip very good for that. Some girl flashing her boobs and then forgetting to do anything and not even know the food being served gets the minimum of 20 percent. I just want to eat, man.
If you really want to get laid by restaurant workers/servers I suggest getting a job there. I’ve gotten laid multiple times at every restaurant or bar I’ve ever worked at. Be normal though.
Also I know that none of you care about my question and are simply wondering “WTF is this punk doing to get numbers thrown at him?” Not sure if I should tell you or make you join my Patreon.
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exactly. To reiterate, reposting this meme to sum it up rather well:
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