Awesome man, that first one is scary as shit. Ill keep all my fingers crossed that things go well. Good luck!
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Flexed on some fool with a āyou donāt have kids stfu if you did youād understandā yesterday. First time Iāve had any reason to do that. (American guy defending young children in China being propagandized to hate Japan)
First time noticing this thread. I wonder if any parents can explain to me this fear of having your child read to by a drag queen. I get into these impossible conversations with my boss about this and trans stuff. He thinks Biden is promoting drag queens and today Iām like so what if he is? What are you so afraid of? His main reply is that itās a decision for the parents, not a publicly funded school. For the life of me I canāt tell what the concern is. Afraid that his grand kids will grow up to be drag queens? Whatās a good response to him?
I donāt think that either of you has to be a parent for you to express outrage and inform him that heās a POS.
There actually have been organized groups of groomer pedophiles in the USA, and they are called The Boy Scouts and the Catholic Church. I doubt that will shut him up but it might be fun to point it out.
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Fwiw, I have pointed out priests and the fact that to my knowledge not a single child has ever been harmed by a drag queen reading a book to them. But heāll simply agree about priests being pedophiles and how heās against that while still insisting that a parent has a right to send their child to school without worrying that theyāll be exposed to drag queens. Itās so frustrating. Maybe Iām just terrible at debate
Men dressed as women as drag is cute and fun and funny.
He thinks itās sexual and perverted.
You donāt have enough of a shared world view to cross that bridge
Just say
āLooks like those kids are laughing a lot.ā And move on with your life
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Update btw. Mrs Rugby now 25 weeks.
Baby Rugbino is doing well. Apparently in the 95 percentile for size, so a rugby career is a possibility.
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Goes without saying.
Also since the weather got warm my wife is getting a ton of comments from strangers around the apartment community asking the babyās ethnicity/nationality whatever and saying itās a pity when told American.
Overwhelmingly old ladies so not that surprising and Iām not unaccustomed to blunt xenophobia and racism from Chinese people but itās definitely a bit jarring to hear of stuff like that said about your kid.
They have a right to educate their child almost anyway they see fit. They do not have the right to expect the government to pay for it. If they donāt like public education they put their child in any private school they want, they just donāt get to ask me to pay for it.
Youāre probably more open to this than your kid is, and I know weāve chatted about this, but Iāve got one graduated from UC Berkeley and another with a year left at UC Santa Cruz and they both xferred from community/city colleges and were well prepared and got/are getting excellent grades in college. The one thing that might seem like a drawback? Missing the college experience? My second is having an awesome time and itās probably better a little later with more independence. My firstās experience was derailed by lockdown and a terrible boyfriend.
And, other than my first spending a year at an expensive private school, college has cost very little - but your kids might not bet as much financial aid. My income on the FAFSA wasnāt that bad though.
And I understand the kids thinking itās lame to go to CC and xfer and my kids both thought that way. Thatās why the first started at an expensive private school (though that was a pretty good experience) and the second just thought it was bad. It ended up being really good, including the experience at Santa Monica College for her. But, you know, the kids know that path will seem less prestigious for a couple years, which is a long time for them.
Iām surprised to hear you say this, because I didnāt think it was a secret that many Far East Asians are pretty racist.
That seems like itās becoming a more and more popular path nowadays. Weāre hoping our daughter gets into UGA (it would have been a no-brainer backup choice 30 years ago, now itās difficult to get into), but lots of people have told us that their kids started at, say, a Kennesaw State and transferred.
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Itās not surprising to hear blunt racist stuff, itās common place.
When Iāve encountered stuff said about Americans, white people, foreigners or whatever directed at me itās easy to shrug off. I have on net a privileged life here.
Itās more knowing my son will experience that sort of stuff, likely at a young age, and getting a small taste of it now (heās just a baby so heās obv not picking up on any of this now).
This is interesting because he was big on Betsy DeVos and school vouchers. He literally believes the opposite. If people want drag queens reading to their kids, donāt do it in public schools that survive on tax dollars
Itās amazing to me that I have such a hard time refuting his logic when he (in my opinion) is so clearly wrong
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The most racist shit I heard in my life I heard in China.
And that was before Xi Jinping
Bob, did you get a sense that the racist Chinese people you came across knew deep inside that being racist is not an nice quality, or did they think they were just āspeaking the truth.ā
I felt that they were just genuinely ignorant of the world outside of China.
Most of their strongest racism was for other ethnicities within the country rather than foreigners outside of it. And I think they felt that they were speaking in a matter of fact sense instead of being outwardly hateful.