This (and the other replies) were great. Thanks very much. Still no idea what to do, but it’s good to hear about how others have thought about this stuff.
I know this is in the parenting thread and may not reach the general population of the forum, but hopefully you all will have wise words.
My son has really bad acne as teenagers are wont to have from time to time. His dermatologist suggested accutane, and of course the internet is awash in horror stories of how bad it is for people, but we do tend to trust our physicians.
I just wanted to know if anybody had used it previously or have kids that did and can provide some reassurance we arent making a mistake.
Took Accutane at age 17… cleared me up completely in two weeks. After I finished the cycle, it never came back again.
They do need to do regular blood checks to make sure triglyceride levels don’t get out of whack.
Also make sure your son doesn’t get pregnant, because Accutane causes horrible birth defects.
Other than that, I count myself as a success story
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Something startled me recently and I yelled “holy fuck.” My toddler was with me. She now will randomly say things like “ holy fuck, it’s sunny outside.” Or “holy fuck did you see that fly dada?” “Holy fuck, that’s a lot of toys.” I have been trying to just ignore it or say things like “holy cow.” Should I just be like hey that’s not something you should say? I haven’t repeated it and I have no idea why she latched onto it but man I get nervous she might blurt this out in the wrong place or time.
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Yeah, you should do this if it doesn’t wear off real soon. The devil is in the details of how exactly you have the convo. Good luck.
I’ve got say, though, that when it’s someone else’s kid, it sounds kind of adorable.
Welp, a few months have passed and the pregnancy has honestly went so smooth. She never had morning sickness, big mood swings, or some of the other common pain points. We did find out recently that it looks like we’ll be having a c-section which has caused some emotion, but it is the correct medical decision due to placentia previa (aka placenta blocking the cervix).
Anywho, looks like I’m becoming a dad in 15 days. holy shit.
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Yeah just be honest.
Congrats. For the first few days it helped us a ton to sleep in separate places. You’re both listening for the baby when you’re in the room with them, so the ability to mentally turn off, know someone else is in charge of listening and allow yourself to fall asleep is huge.
Basically I’d sleep from like 9 to 2, then from 2 to 7 I’d be napping with the little guy nearby and bringing him up for feedings.
Sorry about the complication. If it makes you feel better, Mme Melkerson will tell you that c-sections are the motherfucking nuts.
I would explain why I swore and a bit about what swearing is and then why some people find it offensive. Maybe say something about the difference between swearing out of surprise and swearing at someone. Then I wouldn’t worry much if she swore unless it was at someone or in front of someone that would be really offended.
My daughter is a freshman in high school at did well enough on the PSATs in the fall that she has received a few mailers from colleges (standard, means nothing). The latest one was the perfect illustration of the state of higher education today.
It’s a postcard that literally says, “Don’t rule out [school] because of our price,” in massive font on one side. On the other, it says, “Don’t just look at the price tag,” and mentions their financial aid program, boasting that their average financial aid package in 2021-22 is $60,903.
Haha, I think we got the same one - Vanderbilt?
yup
(despite my mocking of the postcard, I’d be pretty psyched if she got into Vanderbilt)
Used it as a teenager and pretty sure it had great results with minimal issues. Everyone is going to react differently and it does come with some gnarly side effects but I think it’s worth considering if he’s still having issues despite trying other methods - certain types of acne are really difficult to deal with.
I became a dad the other day. All in all, things went smooth with the delivery despite the anxiety leading up to it. He was almost exactly the 50th percentile in both height and weight for an early term birth (37 weeks). So far so good on labs & tests, just hoping to keep that up and not get peed on tbh.
Me on the left, my newborn on the right. I’d say we look pretty similar.
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Congrats Fredd!
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My 13 year old had a major “what happens when we die / I don’t want to die / I’m never going to sleep again” freakout last night. I had bad death anxiety when I was a kid, absolutely breaks my heart. All I could do is hold him, tell him everything is OK it’s OK to feel the way that he’s feeling, and promise him he won’t always feel this way. Tough stuff.
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My daughter may be going under general anesthesia today, and I was trying to comfort her this morning by describing what it does to your body and why they have doctors. (She was confused and upset about why she couldn’t eat this morning.) Apparently everything I said made her even more upset, and my wife was standing behind her wildly gesticulating at me to stop talking. I was a much better parent before I had kids.
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Hope everything turns out OK. A few months ago my son had to go under and they gave him an Ativan drink to calm him during prep. He was completely wasted and was like “This stuff is amazing, can we bring some home? Everybody should drink this all the time!” He comes from a long line of alcoholics and addicts, myself included, so that was wonderful.
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