What? 2nd kid is exponentially harder. Not the kid itself, just the sheer work volume. Its so much harder that you jusf cuss yourself for whining when you only had one kid and your life was perfect
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Iâm so fucking cooked.
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I know two couples that went for their second kid and ended up with their second and third kids. lol God hates you.
On the one hand when the kids are just a little older, if they arenât too far apart in age, they will play together. On the other hand, they will fight, which is like the most annoying thing in the world.
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My sister was 17 months when I was born. My mom quit work to stay home with us, and my sister and I were perfect angels who never did anything difficult or wrong even one time
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Me when people with 1 kid complain about literally anything
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Me when people without kids complain about being tired ever
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My friend with 6 kids when I complain about being tired
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Mrs Rugby has already started considering a second. Mainly because the little Rugbino is exceptionally cute and well behaved at the moment.
Iâm honestly not sure
1 is a lot.
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My sister and I were only 11 1/2 months apart. Mine are 15 months apart.
Second is easier in some ways. You are far less worried about them when they are sleeping unlike the first who I would prod to check she was alive. She didnât appreciate my concerns however and so would wake and cry. You are much more blaise when they take a tumble etc with the second with the added bonus this has a knock on effect with first but yeah twice the work sucks.
Mine are both at college now so you will get there. There is a sweet spot when they get to around 8/9 and then until they hit their teens where they still think you are the greatest and they are pretty self sufficient in many ways. But that passes lol
Congrats Rugby
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Yeah. For the first I used to try to put the monitor close enough to her mouth that I could hear her breathe. When she started eating food, Iâd break cheerios in half for her and peel grapes. The second one we caught eating dry cat food from the bowl. nbd.
eta: Iâm a bit of a worrier though about the kids and when they slept until 1pm as teenagers as teenagers are wont to do, I still would look and make sure they were breathing if the door were open.
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Weâre in the college application decision letter period in my house. It is not exactly stress-free.
Daughter applied to ten schools. The two that have made decisions accepted her, which we expected to happen, since they were âsafetyâ schools. They arenât high on her list, but still a relief. And one of her best friends goes to one of them - sheâs visiting her next weekend. Word from the moms Facebook groups is that another school is sending out letters today (another safety) and a big one (less than a coin flip) is sending them in a week.
As shit as Georgia can be at times, they do secondary education pretty well. In addition to the HOPE Scholarship, there is something called Georgia Match. High schools send kidsâ transcripts automatically to every public college except UGA, GT, and Georgia College & State University (GCSU). The schools then just do the math - if you meet the academic requirements, youâre basically in.
The student then gets a list of all the schools that âmatchedâ and can pick three at which to âclaimâ a spot. The schools then send the student information with the next steps. Itâs pretty much an auto-admission as long as you apply and finish high school without succumbing too much to senioritis. Might also have to supply test scores, depending on the school.
So if all else fails, if she doesnât get into schools she wants or itâs too expensive or whatever, she knows she has all those state schools in her pocket.
(Those three schools above that arenât part of the program have the regular admissions process like anywhere else. Essays, recommendations, etc.)
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Itâs nuts how competitive how this shit has become.
Are they still doing paper letters these days or is it just an email?
The first acceptance was the classic big envelope. She got the second via the Common App electronic system, though the letter might be on the way, I donât know.
And yeah, itâs crazy competitive. What would have been a safety school for me 30 years ago is now at best 50/50. Seven of the eight schools I applied to were and are top-25 schools and I wasnât worried at all. I knew Iâd get in somewhere. Now I would have swapped some of those out for safeties.
There are two âreachâ schools we are assuming she doesnât get into - and itâs not like theyâre Harvard or Princeton. Then there are a couple more that are semi-reaches were I think she has a chance. She was interested in one or two other schools, but realized the odds of getting in were slim, so she didnât bother.
Iâm well behind you in the game but one thing Iâm noticing from kids of friends and acquaintances is that in addition to being competitive, there seems to be a lot more randomness (there always was). Iâve definitely heard of smart kid not getting in to X University and less smart kid getting in. These are cases where I know both well enough that Iâm pretty confident in my assessment.
Of course this sort of thing always happened, but seems more common now.
Now sheâs working on some honors program applications for a couple of the schools sheâll probably get into. Might be a waste of time, since she might not end up there, but acceptance into the honors program can include scholarships, so we told her to get to work. 
Itâs such a numbers game, so you just never know. An Ohio State rep said they get 70,000 applications. Just based on sheer probability, itâs incredibly tough.
Strangely, one of the schools accepted her within a week and a half, and itâs not like itâs a shit school. They must have just looked at her numbers and then read the essays real quick to make sure she wasnât a secret dumb fuck.
I feel like odds can vary, too, based on what the kid says they intend to study. Iâm also guessing (and itâs just a guess) that sometimes applying out of state from a very strong high school can be an advantage. In state, thatâs tougher because so many kids apply from that really competitive high school, which is the situation my daughter is in.
My wife has gone from ânever let me say that wasnât the most painful thing Iâve ever been throughâ to ânow that itâs been a few months it doesnât seem that badâ and weâre experiencing the same cute well-behaved little dude but yeah, a second one to keep track of seems impossible.
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My 16 year old got caught vaping at school. Again.
âIt wasnât mine! The girl just handed it too me when the teacher walked in!â
Yeah fuck off with that shit.