31/36, like all these kinds of tests, some of the emotional choices create ambiguity that adds variance, imo.
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One other thing that I felt was off about the test was that a lot of these looks could be affected by the angle of the photo, whether it was directly in front of the eyes or from an angle. Like that female shot could either be reflective or it could be something along the lines of desire if she was looking at someone.
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My reading however was that the angle of the eyes should be taken as deliberate by the person in the image. A person looking straight on at you with their face and their eyes conveys something different than looking straight at you with their eyes but their face is halfway turned.
I suppose we are in agreement, I am just saying I think the angles are deliberate.
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I got 25. The test felt weird and I often felt myself questioning like “do I just think those eyes are seductive because the woman looks attractive?” “Am I being unfair by thinking this old squinty guy must be angry?”
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Yeah, I had a bunch of similar reactions. Particularly with the female eyes–seemed like “desiring” or “seductive” or “fantasizing” was too often the answer I wanted to pick. Which made me think they were actually studying something else. … honestly, when I got to the end of the test and found where the images came from, it made more sense. I do think my own paranoia/awareness probably tainted some answers.
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Yeah I assumed they were too. I mean where a person is looking tells you as much as how they look.
Good point.
I had to act a couple out. I have a lot of anxiety and was thinking it wouldn’t be too big of a surprise if I’d gotten a low score due to me incorrectly perceiving negative emotions in the people around me.
I mostly only use 3 emojis. Smile, wink, and the blow kisses one(for my GF or if I’m talking shit to my boys).
I think part of it is that I’m not sure what exact meaning all the other ones convey. Even when the interface tells me what the emoji alledgedly means, I’m still not sure if it’s appropriate in the context.
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I don’t use heart emojis at work. Seems a bit flirty. 
Never been to counselling before but have to admit I’m feeling this lockdown.
My company offers free counselling over the phone with a company called guidanceresources.com.
Thinking of calling but I’m worried it won’t be private since the company pays for it. Site says it’s confidential. Should I trust it?
I dont know canada privacy laws but in the USA I’d say it’s fist pump yes on confidentiality. That stuff is extremely confidential here and I don’t imagine it’s any different in Canada.
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I would think its fine, the therapist should be required to keep it confidential by law
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On no account take up their offer. Even if it is truly confidential doubts may always linger at the back of your mind.
You can afford to pay privately for sessions. Good luck.
ETA counselling by phone sounds terrible and your company is doing what one of my previous employers did by offering pseudo-counselling so that HR can tick a box. It’s just a gimmick for recruitment purposes.
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I wouldn’t intend to do counselling with them. I just don’t even know where to start.
When I needed one I started by looking up the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and ended up with a list of local fully accredited counsellors and their specialties.
I’d just suggest going into it fully expecting to have initial visits with a few different therapists before finding one you like. If you happen to like the first person, great, but plan on making an appointment with someone else in 2-3 weeks.
Are there provincial psychology associations or anything in Canada? Professional associations tend to have referral services or directories
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Looking at their behavioral health page here Services: GuidanceResources, EAP, FMLA, Wellness, Work-Life, Behavioral Health | ComPsych, it’s a little unclear how this all operates. In the US these programs typically mean your company contracts with outside providers, who would be held to the typical ethical mandates re: confidentiality and other licensing requirements. I believe the general expectations would be similar in Canada, but I can’t guarantee that.
My guess is that this would be a safe and confidential resource, but your perception of safety/confidentiality is just as important so go with whatever you feel comfortable participating in. Counseling via phone is worse than in-person or telehealth, but better than nothing. I unfortunately don’t have any suggestions for finding in in-person counselor in Canada beyond just googling it.
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Thanks for all the advice everyone. I really appreciate it.
I just called my provincial mental health line and had a great chat. They suggested I make an appointment with my family doctor, which I have done for Monday. They also said my companies program would be a great resource and totally confidential so I am going to call them as well.
This is all so foreign to me. I’ve never had anxiety really or motivation issues.
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Good on you for taking steps forward.
This may not apply to you, but I could have said what you just said, with a straight face and completely believed it a decade ago. One thing that I discovered when I finally sought out professional help, was that I’d been in denial for years and had actually been dealing with anxiety and anxiety related issues for far longer than I thought.
Back then I was under the impression that things like anxiety and depression manifested themselves in very severe ways, and since I didn’t have those egregious symptoms, that I was therefore A OK.
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Won’t be shocked if this turns out to be true for me too. Been having trouble sleeping which is what triggered me deciding to do this. Sleeping has never been an issue for me.
I just booked a session with a councillor referred through my company.
Guess we will see how this all plays out.
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