The charge is a check fraud charge and it is a six month sentence. My daughter she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. I told her mom did the wrong thing and is rightfully serving her punishment. They have a good relationship. The main problem I have is she will see her mom in a jail jumpsuit and see guards and other inmates that could be intimidating. Is that ok for a 15 year old to see? Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny. I wonder why she would think it is funny. My wife says bring her if she would like to and my daughter says she would like to but I don’t know if it is a good idea. She hasn’t gone yet so we can still discuss it together
If I was a fifteen year old who craved new experiences I would probably be excited. At first blush I don’t think it would harm her to visit her mom under these circumstances. Might even serve as an impactful lesson.
My gut says 15 is old enough to go if she wants to. At the same time, make it clear that she can also change her mind down the road and stop/pause the visits if she ever feels uncomfortable with the experience and that you are available to help her work through feelings as they arise.
This. Plus he says they have a good relationship. Unless the mother was a danger in some way (gonna try to manipulate her to do something that could get her in trouble), or there was something especially fragile about the kid, I wouldn’t even consider it my decision. I might have some advice, but I’d leave it up to them.
way late to this, but i’ve visited many jails/prisons. everyone is on their best behavior in the visiting room. only 2 tips i have are bring loose dollars for the vending machines (some places you put money on a card they give you), a microwave cheeseburger is yuck to us but to them it’s the best food they’ve had in weeks.
and check the dress code before you go.
i went to visit my cousin like 15 years ago and showed up in shorts/flip flops, both were a no-go. they sent me to the only store in a 10 mile radius, who only had sweatpants. and the biggest size was medium. i’m 6’2” and ~220lbs at the time.
walk in and he’s already sitting at a table. he sees me walking up in tight sweatpants that stop at my shins and $4 canvas shoes and immediately starts looking around. said he was checking to see if he knew anyone bc he didn’t want them to think i was his boyfriend lmao.
My daughter has a good relationship with her mom, but she finds a certain aspects of her mom of all people being behind bars to be amusing. Guess also there is Kind of a thrill in seeing a jail since you are not a prisoner there
For the last 10ish years I’ve done sobriety service work in the LA County jails and it definitely is a different/interesting experience. As volunteers we’re not really visitors, I have what’s called “non-escort” clearance which means once I’m inside I can move around as I please, which required a full background check etc. Not that I ever thought that spending time in jail as an inmate would be cool, but I really am sure it’s something I never want to experience.
