I use them at work and just put it through my shirt so it stays out of the way
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Just watched the āMovies that Made usā episode on Nightmare Before Christmas.
Holy fuck, Tim Burton is a major fucking asshole. Fuck that guy
On why Kevin Smith signs every copy of Superman Lives with FUCK TIM BURTONā¦and what happened when Tim Burton saw one.
Psychopathy is on a continuum of passive vs aggressive.
We tend to only think of aggressive psychopathy as an issue such that itās the only issue, but the willful disregard and coincidental support of policies that hurt people is just as harmful as pulling the trigger yourself.
It is this act of passive violence that makes it easy to deny our contributions to systemic problems.
Oddly enough, I just read this article yesterday
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This article is helping me understand some of the ire our peers from across the pond bring with them. And maybe some of NotBruceās takes, though I donāt recall whether heās American.
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Iām American. Amusingly, I was once in a foreign country where I was asked if I was Canadian.
Funny, you donāt strike me as the sort to compulsively apologize
Today I am wondering if Frisky really is an odd bird in how they engage with the world.
Speaking as though I am Frisky, I delight in the psychological warfare dynamic thatās a part of poker and often a part of our posting style with each other.
Itās delightful because by default, we sit at the table consenting to such behavior. But with that comes us easily crossing lines that hurt each other and go beyond who is technically or obviously right or wrong.
We assault each other in good fun the same as a boxer stepping into the ring. But when it becomes clear we are causing harm outside of the other personās consentāI believe it is vital to stop. Itās not fun for me if the other person or group isnāt also having fun.
But I see people who say the equivalent of āwell itās funny for meā or āwell Iām having fun,ā and thatās all they care about. Whether something satisfies or frustrates their personal experience. The other personās experience doesnāt give them a momentās pause. Not unless they are a narcissist who sees the other person as an extension of themselves, not as their own person.
They sit at the poker table and do more than take the other personās money. They destroy the person as a strategy to achieve their goal. They tell people if you just understood the point is to make money, you wouldnāt be so mad. All the while missing that what theyāve really said is, āIf it gets me what I want, Iām justified in doing anything within my power to get it.ā
And yet theyāre as human as anyone and have their own feelings and limits. What happens when itās them asking for consideration?
They get frustrated by the nuance that comes from engaging with people as people, not as robots performing according to rules. They scream for consistency when really they are arguing for a childās black and white view of the world. The difference is children are literally incapable of seeing beyond that until their brains finish maturing.
The rest of us can choose whether we place enough value on empathy, compassion, and boundaries as skilled behaviors to acquire and develop them.
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