51 posts were split to a new topic: In which we debate whether certain terms are racist
Fuck this. You gotta be like David Thorne when responding to this shit.
Hi Karen:
Somebody on drugs? Geez, Iâm sorry that you had to go through such a thing. As a dedicated renter who wishes nothing but the safest of accommodations for all who live here, I will be standing by the door to check the pupils of all those who enter. To be extra sure that no junkies enter these hallowed grounds, I will also reject all colored people in order to create the white utopia you desire.
Sincerely,
Rugby
Hi Karen:
Thanks for forwarding the Orange County Guidelines to me. Iâm not a huge fan of the show or the county itâs located in. So, I donât think these rules apply to me. However, I will be glad to expand my role as a volunteer security guard by checking the pupils of all undesirable bicycles at the door as well. Never fear, Karen. White bicycles will get a pass.
Sincerely,
Rugby
As an added bonus, actually do this for an hour or so and tell the tenants that she required you to do it due to a rash of drug addicts breaking into the premises.
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They arenât circulated to renters. Just owners.
Here HOAs can set rules without owners vote or AGM. Only rules counter to the bylaws require owners vote.
Another response.
Iâm sensing victory here.
Hi Rugby, these guidelines have been put together by the members of the Ownerâs Committee for this building. We have had these rules for 17 years and they are often updated after being reviewed by the Committee. There are three apartment owners and one shop owner on the Committee. They are guidelines only but we work very hard to keep this apartment block in good condition and safe for owners and tenants. All four of us put in considerable time and effort to keep costs down. I can easily insert a date into the document. It was last updated about two months ago.
Weird. No sure why it went bold like that.
Iâm generally pretty chill. The reason Iâm digging my heels in here is really two fold
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This is gonna hassle Mrs Rugby, so Iâm taking her side.
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People need to mind their own fucking business. Especially when itâs not hurting anyone.
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Yes. One reason that you need to push is your item 2 here. If you concede that her opinion about your behavior is valid, and that you are even willing to modify your behavior, she will look for more things that she doesnât want you to do. If nothing else, making it a pain for her to get you to modify your behavior will discourage her from pestering you in the future.
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If forced to engage, I completely dispense with the fake nice tone in these spots. Theyâre announcing themselves as intrusive jerks from the outset and there is zero reason to pretend otherwise. Of course its awkward, thatâs what they are weaponizing!
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One analogy would be eDems constantly negotiating in good faith with fascists. You need to recognize the game youâre in to identify a good strategy. Being nice to the busybodies is not a winning strategy.
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lol people just suck man
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If I had to guess maybe 20 or 30? Plus some shops at the bottom.
How about inviting her round for dinner?
Only if you order food and force her to go pick it up.
I would suggest not going full dick mode until youâre out of options. Iâm normally the first to turn a flamethrower on these people, but when you live literally next door to them and have to deal with them all the time things can get a little dicey.
During Hurricane Irma, I lost a section of fencing between my back yard and my neighborâs. I donât live in an HOA community because lol HOAs, but the neighbor texted me asking when I was gonna get the fence fixed. I ignored the text. Then he sent a bitchy screed a couple days later, lamenting how his wife spent âover an hourâ chasing the family dog around the neighborhood because I had failed to fix the fence under his timeline. I then responded with a passive-aggressive screed of my own, reminding him that we donât even know whose fence it is, his or mine, and I donât own a dog OR a wife and Iâm sure as fuck not responsible for his so idgaf if it ever gets fixed and if itâs super important to him to please shop at Loweâs for the fencing materials because Home Depot is run by deplorables, etc.
Anyway he wound up fixing the fence but that was it for him and me and we didnât speak for a long time after that, which wasnât a big deal, but his kids and mine used to play together, and that ended too, and that was kind of a big deal because their kids were the only other ones in the area. So anyway just be careful because there can always be unintended consequences.
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You take the GOP approach here. She wrote a sternly worded but ultimately toothless letter. You can keep on doing what you were doing with no consequences, because just like the edems, she probably doesnât have the guts to push this further.
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Hi Karen:
Contained in this email are guidelines from The Rugby Committee on how to interact with me:
- Keep your nose out of my business.
- Donât ever contact me again under any circumstances
Iâve had these rules for 17 years. They are only guidelines but I put considerable time and effort into making sure that socialization with me is limited though safe. I have inserted a date into this document to confirm that this is indeed an authentic list of guidelines.
June 30th, 2020.
Sincerely,
Rugby
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It could be worse, you could be over the border in Switzerland where some apartments have rules that prevent the flushing of toilets after a certain time.
That must be awful since the Swiss are completely full of shit.
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Off-topic but I hated everybody I interacted with when I visited Switzerland.
Even the AirBnB host was an asshole.
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I think youâll find that Switzerland is an anagram of the word Entitlement.