Hey. He made a post an hour ago in LC that’s not good. Anyone know him in real life to check in?
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Thank you for creating a thread. I posted in the mental health thread but didn’t think to make a new thread to get more eyeballs on it. Really hoping he is ok.
Please someone reach out to him if you have his number/email/social media.
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Just co-signing my well-wishes here. We care about you, Matt.
Unfortunately I don’t have any outside channel or know his IRL name or anything, so I have no leads to offer. Hope someone else does.
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I changed his preferences so he receives an email when he gets a PM to try to reach him outside of the UP bubble.
I changed them back after I sent a PM. I’m looking forward to a reply.
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He seemed upbeat recently? I’m hoping he’s just moving on from here.
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Thinking about you Matt. I’m here if you reach out.
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Shit, unfortunately not. Hope he has someone to talk to outside of UP.
The forum software thinks he was left seen 15 minutes ago.
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I thought he sounded pretty happy about his great weight loss progress so I am hoping he is doing alright.
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So, yeah. Im sorry everyone. I dont normally drink but an innocuous comment during our marital therapy led me to try to outfun the man she is seeing, and knowing that he is a drinker, I thought “shit, I can be a fun drinker too, watch me go.”
Note: I cannot be a fun drinker. I dont drink for a reason. Im weepy and reflective of insecurities when I get drunk, so throwing that into the reality of a post marriage counseling session was a really poor decision on my part. I asked her for details that she has specifically asked me to back off of. I felt I was doing it playfully (again, trying to emulate the fun date atmosphere instead of just being myself) but it ended up being a breach of trust, and I hurt our friendship in the process. I likely can get that back, but last night I catastrophized to an extreme degree. I drove drunk for the first time in my life. I fully intended to drive to the coast and throw myself off the rocks, but when I pulled over to breakdown I caught myself, reached out to the crisis line, and was able to make my way back. I had forgotten I posted here until this morning. Im sorry for anyone who was concerned. Much like last week, an internal crisis has lead to much needed clarity. My heart broke much more yesterday finding out I might lose my best friend than it did finding out she was dating or that we were separating. That says something to me. The relationship I value the most with her is our friendship, and im jeopardizing it with the insecurities around our marriage. Im backing off for now, removing reconciliation as a long term goal to bring up in therapy ( she reads this as pressure, which I understand) and im generally just looking to make myself a better man going forward, not with the intention to win her back, but with the intention of being a better man for me.
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Glad to hear you’re okay
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You had us all pretty scared, but I’m sure glad to see you’re still with us, even if getting to “OK” or “better” will still take some time.
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Very glad to hear you’re ok man. You’re good people.
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Glad you are alright. I have been to that precipice and it’s not fun. Hope you can repair your friendship and stay on the path you have tried to put yourself on. I think you have been doing well from what I can tell from what you share. I know this stuff with your wife is really throwing you for a loop but I have a confidence that you can come out the other side in a good place.
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Glad to hear from you, CM
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Rooting for you CM. Going through an unwanted breakup has to be one of the toughest things so don’t be afraid to give yourself some grace for struggling some and/or making a mistake here or there.
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Don’t forget, your family needs you, the forum needs you, and the world needs you.
The fact that you were able to provide stability knowing that it could cost you, tremendously, is some hero shit.
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So happy to see you post today, Matt. I know we don’t know each other, but please know that you being here makes me (and clearly many others) happy. Thank you for reaching out for help before making an irreversible mistake last night. Wish you all the best as you navigate the road ahead 