That’s just the cocktail hour
Get married at some fancy estate somewhere, but set up a “Swiftie Ceremony” at MSG where fans can pay to watch a closed circuit feed on the Jumbotron. How many tickets could she sell and at what price?
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Mrs. Tilted is pregnant after 2 times trying. I was kinda hoping it would take longer! I guess all the guinesss I drank in Scotland worked. Any financial or life advice before the little one is born?
Unfortunately neither one of us gets a paid maternity / paternity leave so that’s fun (LOLAMERICA)
I’ve got the cushiest gig possible minus the leave and insurance so I guess we’ll just have her take unpaid FMLA from February to summer break (she’s a teacher ish) and then maybe they will pay her during the summer. Her mom will probably come stay with us for a while to help out which is great.
I’ll probably take 2-3 weeks off. I’ve got plenty of money in retirement and HSA but less cash than I would like due to building a house.
Haven’t posted in a while so hope all is well with everyone.
Just looking for any wisdom from the smart folks here before life changes a bit. We’ve spent the last 5 years doing a ton of traveling and overall cool shit so I feel really relieved this is happening now and not when I was 30. I’m excited!
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would sell out the venue at $1k+
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Big congrats
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Congrats! You may also want to ask here:
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Get the stupid Trump account thing. Start a college fund and put little bits in there
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Abandon all hope ye who enter here.
In all seriousness, put in the work. Do dirty jobs. Spend the time. Skip the crutches. It’s hard, it’s messy, it’s time consuming, and most of the time it won’t even feel worth it, but there is no substitute.
Story time with real books is going to be the best you get for a while, and relish it. The more you can foster a love of reading, the better for school and the better the relationship with you.
Oh, and little kids love to help. Foster that even if it means more work than otherwise at the time.
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One more. It’s hard to know exactly which books will be your kid’s favorites, but one of them will be Don’t Push the Button.
OK two more. If you have the opportunity to get your kid into a language immersion school, do it. Or if not, the sooner they can start learning and speaking a new language , the better
OK three more. Put in the work on names. Check how it sounds both at graduation and when in trouble. Check the initials. It’s not for your amusement but for your statement about their place in the world.
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Congrats!
Sleep when you can. Biggest obvious mistake I made when our first was a newborn was it taking a while to get through my head that I shouldn’t stay up to 11 or 12 like I was used to while the baby was asleep. If you start with the mindset that you’re going to sleep whenever you get the opportunity, it’s not going to be that painful to spend a couple hours in the middle of the night up with the baby.
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LOLAMERICA
I had a cushy gig once. It was called unemployment.
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- Babies and children are amazing. My rule of thumb is that the optimal number of children for a family is either zero or one more than you think is optimal. So plan accordingly, especially if you’re getting older. My kids are 25 months apart, which I’ve found to be an ideal separation.
- It’s almost impossible for a loving parent to unknowingly do something that’s genuinely bad in an important way to a baby or small child. Parenthood culture will relentlessly tell you that lots of things (tummy time, exclusive breastfeeding, infant playgroups, etc., etc.) are incredibly important to your child’s development, but it’s all BS. The social pressure is much higher on mothers. Do what you can to strike a balance and ruthlessly prioritize organizing your life in a way that makes your family happy rather than try to development-maxxx your baby.
- Specific application of the foregoing: I love reading to my kids and I do it all the time. The important aspect of this is that I’m spending time with my kids doing something that I enjoy, not that I’m building their vocabulary or whatever. Find something to do with your kids that you enjoy–kids can sense that and it’s good for them to feel that their parents enjoy them.
- Sleep deprivation is brutal, especially if your kid isn’t a good sleeper. Figure out some way for both parents to get an uninterrupted night of sleep every now and then. The in-laws can watch the baby for a night, or you can take shifts being on call for nighttime feeding duty, or whatever, but you need to get 5 hours of straight sleep every now and then to stay sane.
- 529 plans let you switch beneficiaries within your immediate family. So you can set up a 529 plan for yourself and your spouse to triple the contribution limits.
- A lot of parents describe loving their baby from first sight, but that wasn’t my experience. I felt very protective and responsible, but for the first 8-10 weeks, the baby was just this screamy little alien thing that was important to take care of. With both of my kids, I vividly recall a moment when that stopped being true and I suddenly saw a little person in their eyes looking back at me.
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My wife and I figured out a long time ago that we are a zero kids couple. What has been really interesting for us is that as friends and family have kids we are always delighted to spend time with them as the cool uncle/aunt team. I think a lot of people assume we don’t like kids because we don’t have kids, but children are a lot of fun.
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Mine are 28mo apart. Worked out well.
My older brother is 18mo older and maybe we fought more for being closer in age, but not sure.
My younger brother is 39mo younger and that was fine, but maybe the 57mo gap between those two was so much that they didn’t do stuff together a lot when we were young.
As far as parenting goes, with our kids, the second one came along at a fine time for weaning the first. Back when I was a baby of course we were all science babies and formula fed.
It took two days of training and now my reels are all this guy asking Geography questions. The algorithm is a bitch goddess who taketh away as easily as she giveth.
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I love this guy.
One of the channels I subscribe to
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With smoking and drinking pregnant moms?