Scary to pick a path that is not healthcare right now imho
Iāve been hearing from patients in the past 6-12 months that tech jobs seem pretty hard to find.
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Yes and especially for recent graduates.
I didnāt yell at my kids much, but I did sometimes and said things I shouldnāt have as well, but I didnāt think it was all that bad a lesson to sometimes say I was sorry and Iām just a person with emotions like anyone else and not to expect perfection.
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Making yourself actually apologize after you yell at your kids is the key I think, rather than just letting it blow over. For one, it makes you feel like complete dogshit, so you stop yelling as much, and for two I think explicitly spelling it out does a lot to convey the right lessons.
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Getting down to the nitty gritty in my oldestās college admissions season. Ten total early action applications. Five acceptances, one deferral to regular admission, one rejection. All results have been expected. Two more letters should come this week, then one more by mid-February. All three could be rejections - I expect one rejection for sure, wouldnāt be shocked if the other two were good news, but could go either way.
If UGA was an acceptance, there would be no stress, but thatās the lone deferral. So weāre kind of just waiting for another couple months to see what happens. Itās my daughterās first choice plus itās in-state AND sheād go tuition-free. She did get into another in-state school, so thereās that, but itās not really the type of place sheās looking for. She is highly interested in a couple of the out-of-state schools, but obviously they are crazy expensive. A couple have offered her a little money so far, but weāre hoping more merit awards will come down the pike as the schools sort out the regular deadline applications.
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My wife had a talk with my daughter about thinking of how she will feel in the future when she puts things off, so Iāve started talking to my daughter, Lucy, in terms of Future Lucy. I.E. āFuture Lucy would really like you start doing your homework at 4:30.ā It seems to work better than speaking in terms of present Lucy. Dunno if this is a one weird trick to parenting thing but itās working my case. Sheās 12, if that matters to anyone employing this trick.
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āDo your future self a favorā has been a thing I use to motivate myself and my kids really latched onto it.
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āDad, Future Lucy it isnāt very good with saving money, so if you want to go to a decent nursing home, thatās going to be on you.ā
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Iām stealing this. Will let you know how it goes. Mine is also 12.
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Daughter college update:
All 10 schools have made their decisions.
Accepted: Indiana, Minnesota, Auburn, South Carolina, Wisconsin, Georgia College & State Univ.
Rejected: Georgia, North Carolina, Virginia, Illinois
UGA was by far the biggest disappointment - just found about it last Friday. It was her top choice AND she would have gone tuition-free. She can still get free tuition at Georgia College, but she really doesnāt want to go there. She wants the big state school experience. The really disappointing thing for her was that she worked so hard, took a billion AP classes, did well, did lots of volunteer work, etc., and still couldnāt get into UGA.
So that means figuring out if we can handle the price tags. Schools have offered her some money, but not that much compared to the total cost. $11k, $8k, stuff like that. Wisconsin and Minnesota should let her know about scholarships soon.
The Wisconsin decision was the biggest happy shocker - she applied early action (to all of them) and was deferred. Did not think she would get in, especially since she got rejected by Georgia and Illinois. Decision came late last night. And since I grew up there and my parents live in the state, thatās a big plus for her. Made her feel a lot better after the UGA rejection.
Her top three right now are Wisconsin, Auburn, and Indiana. Weāre going to visit Minnesota in early April (my brother is an alum and lives up there) and now probably add Wisconsin to the trip.
Sheās still mourning UGA, but sheās starting to look at the bright side. Sheās proud that her efforts resulted in at least some scholarship money - she also got into Indianaās honors college - and sheās looking at it all as a sign that maybe itās time to spread her wings and leave the state.
Also, self-high five to me. I predicted sheād get into IU, Auburn, SC, Minn, and GCSU, get rejected by UVA, and UNC, and get into one of UGA, Ill, and Wisc.
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Congrats to her on all the acceptances! Itās crazy how competitive things are these days, it seems like such a shift from even 15-20 years ago. I have little doubt I would not get into my alma mater if I was applying for it today with the same application.
Sorry about UGA - that certainly would have been a dream scenario it seems for parents and child alike. Do they have any type of transfer track? Like go to GCSU or someplace like Georgia State for a year or two and then a guaranteed transfer?
Does she have any sense of what she wants to do? The idea of paying full (or close to full) out-of-state price for a brand-name school like these has always struck me as not the best ROI, unless youāre going for a program that they are really known for and that helps having on the resume when pursuing those internships and full-time jobs. But I donāt have a kid whose dreams and desires Iām trying to support, so itās easy for me to say that.
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Yeah, she was thinking a while back about going to GCSU and transferring - seems like something lots of people do. But sheās just soured on that idea more and more.
Sheāll have some scholarship money and a little help from at least one grandparent, so maybe we can get the cost low enough where itās not too bad (we do have a 529 that would have handled four years in-state easily).
She wants to be a physical therapist.
It really is crazy how competitive everything is now. I applied to 8 schools, 7 of them ātop 25,ā and I had no worries about getting in. And I got into some of them. Now, I wouldāve shifted my strategy to include several āsafetyā schools. I think one thing about UGA is the Hope scholarship here in Georgia has made staying in state so attractive that application numbers have soared.
Plus, my kids go to one of the best high schools in the state, which Iām told could actually be hurting them because UGA (and Georgia Tech) donāt want to take everybody from one school, even if they are all deserving. So when you have 300 or more kids from her class applying, itās tough.
Weāll get it all figured out.
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At least thereās no risk of her getting into a car with a UGA football player.
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Have any of the schools or counselors given you an idea of what the impending DOE closure means when it comes to things like scholarships and aid?
I know you know all this, but having a three or four car household seems completely wild to me.
From the context of Australian, British, Filipino families.
The latter might have three, but thatās spread across a 10 person extended family.
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Hey. I didnāt realise you had a new baby. Seems likes heās almost the same age as little Rugbino.
Yeah. We are careful about him seeing too much TV. Especially if itās too exciting.
Yep, looking back through the thread your kiddo is 4 days older than mine. Luckily although heās somewhat interested in TV he doesnāt really watch it. He really likes the Bluey theme song though and my wife will play it in the car if heās having a bad time.
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I know schools have different rates if you are in-state vs out-of-state. So that means that if the parents move to the state with their child, they get the in-state rate? Butā¦ wouldnāt the student be an adult living in that state anyways? Very confusing.
Its based around residency of the student I believe. Most states require an establishing amount of time before they are considered residents. When I moved to Tennessee for college, I had to take a gap year to get residency and be eligible for in state tuition