No. Absolutely not.
This is not a free for all forum for all conversations. I will not involve myself in a community that says it is the equivalent of 4Chan discourse, but I am also confident you and Alex do not mean this when you make this defense as a response to THIS SPECIFIC CONVERSATION rather than an abstract thought experiment.
I am asking for healthy boundaries for safety in a very urgent and specific conversation. Please do not conflate this with general conversation or the standards of a LC thread.
It is the responsibility of the person to PREPARE themselves for heavier conversations that have deadly real world consequences. Cactus showed up unwilling or unable to read even the last 40 posts. They said there were too many posts in the thread. They just showed up as they were.
Their recent posts confirm and clarify their LACK OF SITUATIONAL AWARENESS. The thread title alone signifies a more serious conversation. And yet they just popped in and went with some of the most dangerous basic comments and questions a person can contribute to this conversation. I have grace for that being their honest starting position, but wtf?
That is highly inappropriate, rude, and in this situation is contributing to the literal death of trans people. To me, itâs appropriate to walk into a conversation, make a comment, realize you spoke INCREDIBLY out of place, and just say youâre sorry and sit with some humility. That is the time to perform the labor necessary for you to participate in the conversation or decide that labor isnât worth it to you.
Instead, his actions demanded WE perform that intellectual and emotional labor FOR HIM just so he can participate in the conversation.
No. I ask that he and ALL OF YOU do the MINIMUM amount of preparation. This is having real world consequences that go beyond your awareness and intentions. Please look at this as serious and urgent and do the work to educate yourself or just STFU to say anything but full throated support for people labeled as trans.
If the minimum amount of preparation for a person doesnât include simply reading the thread, which is nowhere near the minimum amount of preparation to participate in this conversation without having a harmful impact, then I am going to ask that person to sit down, and I will probably do so in a manner that expresses how urgent the state of things are and what Iâm experiencing.
Read the thread. Watch the videos. Read the research. Look up what other trans people have already contributed to the conversation. Whatever youâre thinking of asking has probably already been so thoroughly answered that you can answer it faster and avoid contributing to the harm and death of trans people by performing that intellectual and emotional labor before hitting post.
I am not asking to stop this dialogue. I am asking for everyone to treat this one more seriously and please prepare yourself first. That might mean participating in the conversation for a while by just listening. Please. This is not an abstract conversation. This is real and specific.
I am asking anyone who wants to respond like cassette or Alex to please express grace and compassion for the trans people being affected by this and why boundaries are good and healthy for everyoneâs safety, including in this very conversation. Gesturing toward whether everyone should be allowed to ask questions and participate is not helpful. No one disagrees with that principle just because you got checked and asked to sit down in a specific situation.
You are loved and worthy despite being almost as imperfect as me 
Thank you in advance for listening and doing the work.
