Honestly, I don’t blame people for making the jump to other countries to pursue an intimate relationship. Obviously, the motives for many of the people doing it are quite bad but it’s a reasonable (though I guess it can be argued as extreme) response to the toxicity of the modern dating scene.
My current relationship is with a woman from Southeast Asia despite my current location and it’s by far the best one I’ve had.
It’s not bad in and of itself, I think just the motivations for arriving there are vastly different.
I enjoyed dating in New Zealand, Montreal, France, and then Latin America. I moved to a city b/c I thought the place would be cool and interesting, and dating was on the list, but like item #4 or 5.
The passport bros seem to despise women in general, but especially western women are vilified. They want a virginal tradwife who will be content staying at home. They idolize leaders like Bolsonaro and Trump and act like any nation that elects a “socialist” leader like Kamala or someone to her left will almost certainly end up like Venezuela.
Wanting to find a relationship abroad isn’t so problematic as the rest of their views. And somehow, nearly all these guys seem to hold these toxic views. There was 1 guy in the group who would argue against them, but then gave up when he realized it was akin to banging his head against the wall.
When I was in CDMX, the 2+2er Kick2dante reached out to me about a visit, and having never met him before, I agreed to meet him. He had been wandering on his own for about 4 days when we finally met and he told me he hated the city. His reasoning, the hookers were uglier and a bit more expensive than his last city, Medellin. I said ok, but what do you think about just walking around and taking in the architecture and history of the city, and sampling the different food. He said he didn’t care about any of that and mostly ate western food.
He PMed me on the other site a couple weeks ago, b/c he knew I’m in Bangkok now. Apparently covid has done a # on some of his favorite spots and he was forced out of Medellin, so he tried Rio. He lamented that the women in his favorite brothel have gone down considerably in quality, so he cut his trip short by several weeks. He’s in probably the greatest city for beaches, views, and people watching, and he couldn’t care less.
That’s the mentality I’m talking about. These people couldn’t give a fuck about the places they’re visiting, the local culture, the language, the people, etc. It’s 100% about women.
Yeah that’s pretty much my biggest fear is that someone will assume I’m one of those guys while traveling. They may be 99% sure I’m ok, but still, better steer clear just in case.
I’m trying to figure out something I could wear that would instantly signal I’m not a Trumper race war sex tourist.
Crocs and socks.
j/k
Button down shirt. Not Hawaiin.
Most sex tourist places are hot. That sounds sweaty.
I was thinking like maybe a tie-died t-shirt or a rainbow satchel or something. But hoping for better ideas.
Try a “My not here for sex tourism T-shirt has people asking a lot of questions already answered by my shirt” t shirt .
Might work better than my “Please don’t run away. I promise I’m one of the good ones. Wait, where are you going?” t-shirt.
Man this fucker always grossed me out on the other place.
What do the local people with money wear?
They don’t sweat like I do.
Where do they spend their time. More AC?
Signalling is hard. You have to live like a rich local to look like a rich local.
I mean. Sounds like you want it to be one way. But it’s the other way.
I don’t need to look like a rich local, I just want to signal that I’m not a Trumper race war sex tourist with multiple adult children back in the states that I don’t speak to.
Like I’m a hippy or a new age guru or something would be fine.
This is like sex tourist chic. Don’t look like some burnout or freak if you don’t want to seem like a sex tourist. Honestly, dressing like Jeffrey Epstein, with neat pressed clothes and simple designs, is probably your best bet. But you may get robbed or kidnapped, especially is you hang out late at night in sex tourist areas.
It’s more than that. Suzzer’s problem is that he is white. So he could live the rich local lifestyle, but if someone sees him on the street, they’re gonna make some assumptions.
Also, no offense to Suzzer, but his natural appearance is completely consistent with white, middle-aged, MAGA (which I’m sure has a lot of crossover with the pedo sex tourist demographic). So, it’s going to be extra hard for him. (Sorry, suzzer).
Suzzer looks maga enough that he could do one of those fake maga redneck comedy channels.
MAGA usually have goatees not full beards. Although I don’t expect too many people to make that distinction.
There was a discussion about if the Americans in Thailand are more R or D. I say R for sure, but MAGA seems to deny it. Some guy said “how would you know, most Americans I see are wearing sports shirts/hats” and I thought, that in and of itself might be a good indicator.
I don’t know a ton of Rs personally besides extended family, but they’re exactly the types that would just wear Huskers gear while abroad (on the 5% chance they’d leave the country in their lifetimes). Maybe I’m off base, but I feel like MAGA is many times more likely to wear local sports team gear, if they’re not wearing MAGA or pro-USA type gear.
In Bangkok, I think it isn’t super hard to pick out the probable sex tourists. They don’t go much beyond local beer brand tank tops or a sports T, shorts, and sandals. Just by getting a nice lightweight linen shirt, decent shorts, and decent shoes, you’d already differentiate yourself quite a bit.
The simple fact though is just being a white male foreigner, you’ll probably be assumed to be a sex tourist, whether 25 or 90 (esp. if their gf looks 18, which sadly, is common). The older you get, the more they’ll think that. It’s unavoidable, but just treat people with respect. Half the shitbags here think they’re better than the locals and act like it. It’s one of the few things that sucks about Bangkok.
Amazingly, in person he’s even weirder than his online persona.
I think he was also the guy that used to write his # on dozens of slips of paper then go to malls in Thailand and hand one to girls before scurrying away without saying a word.
JD Vance has changed the game.