Roll Tide. Do they know Saban is a Democrat?
On a trip with a pretty tight group of college friends to reconnect, we haven’t seen each other since the summer before the pandemic. One of them, a guy who I’ve been friends with for 30+ years, we were in each others’ weddings, bristled when I referred to Rob Schneider as a deplorable. I didn’t really see where things were headed and before I knew it he was telling me that nobody really wants to deny any rights to my trans kid, they just want to do really obvious things like keep kids out of drag shows, which is obviously something on which we can all agree.
So that’s a pretty big bummer.
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Ugh, sorry you had to deal with that. Both the disregard for your child and the realization that this friend is kind of shitty :(
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Visiting my wife’s Trumper father and stepmom now.
Tonight has been fun LOL.
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Tell them both sides are bad for trying to lock each other up on bullshit chargers and that Trump started it first
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I spent the day with MAGA stepmom today. Hell is real.
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Sorry that happened 
If they push us back so far, the last man alive blows the bridge
You guys need to be able to interject bible verse at the appropriate time in conversation.
Brother: What is Juneteenth again?
Me: I think it’s celebration of the freeing of slaves in Texas
Deplorable Mom: Yeah and then they killed everyone in the town
Me: Really? GOOD. All slave owners deserve to be murdered.
Mom: * shocked and offended *
Seriously how fucking far down the ring wing rabbit hole do you have to be to have that be your first thought, like oh ya, that’s the holiday celebrates black on white crime.
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If I bothered to see family on holidays these days I would guess I would be experiencing a very similar conversation. Maybe add in some Juneteenth as a WOKE holiday garbage.
Yeah I make an effort to shut everything down as fast as possible now. I’m much happier just being as ignorant about her beliefs. If she brings something up, usually because her insane sister is texting her right wing bullshit all day, I’ll basically mock her “wow that’s horrible, yeah huge if true, no Juneteenth is proof that the democrats are the real racists, sure” or say “sorry you’re offended” as many ways as possible.
It’s really only my mom I ever have to deal with, I have a small family, everyone lives on the east coast, my brother is a fundamentalist Christian but he doesn’t care about politics and doesn’t follow the news. He doesn’t vote and knows nothing about Trump
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It’s the only reasonable way to handle deplorables aside from completely cutting them out of your life.
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Escalating any conversation so that they’re afraid to bring stuff up is a solid strategy.
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I used to use the emotional terrorism technique on my family and I have to say it did a lot of damage to me. Turning myself into someone deplorables would be scared to talk to worked to prevent the conversations but did not help the way I thought about myself. Just avoiding toxic/racist/prejudiced assholes is an undefeated strategy imo.
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Yeah what I did above is basically the “you’re goddamn right I did!” strategy I use whenever they say outrageous shit like if someone calls me a socialist I don’t say “no I’m not” I tell them they’re total cucks for not being wanting to seize the means of production.
A friend once told me he doesn’t want CRT taught in schools and my response was “it’s never too early to learn your parents are racist” and then acted all offended when they get offended, because I didn’t specifically call them racist.
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I don’t think it’s a one size fits all approach to be totally honest. We are all unique and wonderful people who have to figure out how to navigate the family trauma shit as best we can.
I guess I just mean find what works for you and do it. The whole thing is so ridiculous. We didn’t control who we were born to. We didn’t even choose our own names. And then we spend our whole life trying to figure out how to coexist with the people we are related to. As if we have some moral obligation to do so. It’s not just possible, but very likely some of the people we got stuck with aren’t that great. It isn’t our fault.
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A lot of q people think tomorrow will start the black uprising.
This is great, imo.
This is the line I’d like to think that I’d take if I were in your spot. Hopefully, I’ll never have to find out.